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When was the last time a man approached you? Do men regularly initiate conversation or flirt with you? If not then you have a serious romantic problem which can be fixed with 5 simple steps.
I remember Beverly, a former client of mine telling me that men seem to scared of her. She didn’t know how to get men to approach her.
“They don’t approach me,” she said with a distant look in her eyes.
“Quite frankly though, I think that a man who doesn’t have the guts to approach me isn’t of any worth. I like bold men,” she added. Actually I think she was trying to rationalize for the problem she was having.
In delving more into the issue I found that Beverly was quite aware that she has a rather serious countenance, something that can put people off, even though she was one of the sweetest girls I have met.
“But that’s the way God made me I can’t change that,” she said emphatically. As tactfully as I could I helped her to realize that there are indeed ways we can behave and actions we can take to improve, what I call, your “A.Q” (approachability quotient). Now Beverly is being regularly approached by all sorts of men. Here are 4 simple ways to improve your A.Q
Wear a pleasant countenance
Some people, like Beverly, claim they can’t change their countenance, but you indeed can. Your posture and facial expression are usually a reflection of the things that occupy our minds. Has anyone ever said to “you look worried/down/sad,” or “you are looking happy, your face is glowing.” This is because our facial and body muscles respond and react subconsciously to what we are dwelling on in our minds.
If you find yourself absorbed by alot of worrying thoughts and pressure, your face and body will reflect it. Practice changing these thoughts and think of a funny event/movie/person. Reflect on times when you did something great which made you feel wonderful. If you practice these long enough you will find that without effort your face and features will look relaxed and inviting.
Smile – you are never fully dressed until you smile
A smile puts people at ease: it says that you are a friend and not a foe.
A smile is inviting – gives men a cue that they will not be rejected; I will welcome a conversation with you.
Treat everyone you meet with grace and kindness. This is not only a very attractive quality it also magnetize people (men) to you. The way you treat and respond to other people to a large extent determines if and how people (men) approach you. If you are brash and caustic to people who you think are not in your league, then other people and men in particular will think that you are not a nice person to approach and get to know. Even the way you treat down-and-outs (poor, beggars, homeless) count in how people view you. Without you realizing it people are always evaluating you and checking you out.
Be available. This is a huge mistake I see girls making all the time. They always go out in groups and packs. While that is not a problem, they unconsciously stick only to the pack while they are out. Women who travel in packs and groups are less likely to be approached. Men find it’s easier to approach a girl on her own than with a group of friends. If he is rejected then he won’t have to feel embarrassed in front of all her friends.
If you go out with your friends always try to spend some time on your own, a man may just want such a moment to approach you.
Talk to men. This does not mean you should make romantic advances on men, far from it. It means that as a general rule to you should be friendly to everyone you meet. Don’t be afraid to say “hi/hello/how are you?” to anyone and everyone. This may just be the excuse a shy guy is looking to chat with you. When you do this to everyone (men, women, children) men will see you as a friendly, nice and approachable person.
How would you like to attract great boyfriends with little or no effort? How would like great men to want to be with you? They would court your attention, want to be associated with you and desire your love. They would show up in your life like bees attracted to honey.
To be a man magnet like this you need to be, you guessed, ATTRACTIVE.
Do I mean you should have to have a coca-cola bottle shaped body, shiny long flowing hair cascading down your neck and shoulders and a glossy magazine face? This would help but there is far more to attraction than physical beauty. The type of attraction I am speaking about will make you to beat the top models hands down, without having to pay of boob jobs or going on a diet to reduce your weight.
Many women make the fatal mistake to think that men are only obsessed by the way they look and dress. Hence they invest vast amounts of money in clothes, makeup, shoes and handbags.
There 3 aspects of beauty, 2 of which you may not be aware of. It is not spoken about in the popular media. Here are the 3 aspects of attraction:
1. Physical beauty. I will not expand on this as I know you already have enough information about grooming, dressing and sexy body
2. Attractive life. By this I mean people must see that you have a life with many things happening within it. Have you ever heard the term “get a life”. Well it implies that you have a boring, routine life that needs some excitement, activity and fun. When you are busy in your professional, personal, career, entertaining and recreational world, people not only admire you and what you are doing, they also want to be a part of your life. You will be surprised at the number of people (both male and females) you automatically attract in your life just because of this. So go out and get busy improving your life, having fun by learning to play some sport or games, helping other people by volunteering, educating yourself, becoming active in a club/group/church. A very good example of how you can simply attract other people by improving your self is Toula in the movie the Fat Greek Wedding. When she was stuck in her father’s restaurant, nothing happened for her. But after going to college and working in a travel agency, her esteem and confidence soared and she was interestingly spotted by the very guy who ignored her totally before.
3. Attractive personality. Believe me, if you have a wonderful personality, regardless of your size, colour or creed people will be drawn to you. People will also speak about how nice you are and even without you knowing it they will tell to other people about how nice you are. This type of niceness includes being kind, loving, helpful, caring, concern and understanding of other people. It is not something that you can fake. You must be genuinely interested and be willing to help other people.
No amount of physical beauty can rival having an attractive life and personality, in magnetizing or making other gravitate towards you. Men will want to be with and around you. You will have more request for dates and even marriage than you can handle. You will have a very different problem: instead of not finding men you will have too many choices.
Came across this video, by Matthew Hussey, about practical dating tips you can use. I completely agree with the tips he discusses The only warning I would inject is that you should be careful about the touching as this could give men licence to be forward with you. I would say that you should shake hands instead of hugging especially if this is your first date, hugging can come later as you get more comfortable with him. During the date if you are enjoying yourself you can playfully touch, punch or poke. You certainly don’t want to subconsciously give permission to physical involvement if you do not want to move the relationship forward.
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In number six I mentioned that great men do not have the ulterior motive of sex. However I should make it clear that this is not their only motive and ambition. In fact most men who are genuinely interested in you would tend to put off sex until you are in a secure relationship with him. He is more interested in you as a person than you as a sex object.
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