Many women are asking the age old question “where are all the good men.”

Well according to Rachel Greenwald, author of the book “Have Him At Hello” that is the wrong question.

You should really be asking the question “How do I find a good man?”

This question makes all the difference and it helps you to focus on what you can do to not only find but also attract a great single man into your life.

Rachel Greenwald says you should actually have a plethora of methods – a strategic plan – to help you find a good single man.

The question should really be: “What do I NEED to do to get out there and meet new people?” Rachel says.

“What you need is a diversified portfolio of dating activities, you have got to have a lot of irons in the fire,” Rachel Greenwald

Here are some of her suggestions.

• Starbucks or a commercial centre where lots of people frequent
• 2 online dating sites – a large site and a niche site
• Meet up people with common interests e.g meetup.com, clubs, groups etc
• Facebook – connect with friends and old acquaintances
• Network  and get fix ups through friends and family
• Go out – never stay at home. Greenwald calls home the 4 letter dating dirty word

Attraction: What Attracts men to women; What attracts women to men

• What attracts a man to a woman?

• What attracts a woman to a man?

• Do you choose who you are attracted to?

• Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?

Check out this short documentary and find out what attracts men to women and what attracts women to men.

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Traditionally most people think that beauty is really down to the individual. You may even have the concept that the people you choose the people you are attracted to.

Well today I want to share some really amazing discovery. You will be absolutely blown away by these scientific discoveries.

Believe it or not beauty is universal. All over the world men are attracted to the same things in women; everywhere women are attracted to similar things in men.

How to tell if this is Mr. or Miss right in 5 minutes or less

• How to know if this is the right person for you?
• Have you ever wondered if the person catches your eye is worth pursuing?

Well there is a quick and easy way to tell if you should invest your valuable time and effort in pursuing someone or it’s a total waste of your precious time.

Donna had the “hots” for Tony but spent an entire year obsessing about if she should even try to get his interest. Even though she was a sharp college educated nurse she became absolutely confused about deciding if she should pursue a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

Alas Donna waited too long to decide. Tony fell in love with someone else and later got married. Would he have chosen Donna to be his bride, if she made herself available? We don’t exactly know but we do know she did not give herself a fighting chance.

Many men tell me that women that they liked but never showed any interest in them would incredulously tell them that they like them after they get married to someone else.

This does not have to be you? Here are several ways to quickly and easily tell if you should pursue someone you like.

David Coleman discusses exactly how you should do this in the video below

Questions you can ask:

1. Am I attracted to them?
2. Is there chemistry?
3. Do I believe them?
4. Is there desire?
5. Go out on at least one date and see what your gut reaction is?

Are you looking  to Find a Husband?

• Do you feel it time to settle down and have a family with kids?
• Not sure how to go about doing this?

Well here are 5 ways you can find a husband?

The hilarious video below do have some powerful tips you can use to find the love of your life.

The first step in finding the love of your love is to be clear about not just what you want but how you want to be treated.

Believe me many people miss this vital and all important step in finding a soulmate.

Some gurus tell you to list the qualities you are looking for. However if you are clear about the experiences and treatment you want in a marriage then it would be far easier to the love you deserve.

There are several important parts you will to look at. This is crucial so listen very careful. People miss this all the time and run into huge trouble in their relationship later. Don’t make that mistake.

This is a secret the gurus never tell you. Here is the secret. First be clear about what marriage involves and reverse engineer the process to find the best husband who can fit with what you want

Marriage life is made up of several predictable parts

1. Functional: that is making money to pay bills buy food and clothes. It also includes cooking, washing and cleaning.

2. Children: from changing nappies, bathing, feeding, playing with them, putting them to bed to  school runs and disciplining them.

3. Romance: This is the only part most people focus on. Sex, romance and recreation (dates, dinners, holidays).

What you need to do is to picture how you would like your husband to be involved in all of these.

Bingo you will be looking for someone who can fit the role of all of these. Maybe not all, but as much as possible.

Believe me this will reduce your chance of divorce considerably.

2. Planning. While I agree that you should make a plan on how you will go about doing this, I don’t think you should be so military-like about it.

I say you should enjoy the process and have fun.

3. Look in the right places. Yep, he got that one right. Look in the right places. If you are a religious person it is no use searching in a rave for a soul mate. If you are looking for a well manner husband, it is highly unlikely that you will find him in the ghetto.

4.  Be flexible.That is a good suggestion. If something doesn’t work try something else.

Are you only dreaming about finding a husband?

5. Patience. I know time may not be on your side but don’t rush the process. I have a saying “Time is the crucible in which great relationships are cooked.”

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What is a good man and how can you tell if someone is a good man?

These guys discuss what a good man or right man is :

Sensitive:

I do agree that someone who is sensitive to your feelings, needs and desires is a good even great man.

Noble:

This is a word that is not often used these days. What is nobility? The word originally referred to people of certain upper class who distinguished themselves by the way they dress, acted and even talked. If you were descendent of such family you were said to be of noble birth.

However the word later also came to mean of high moral character, having dignity, eminence and excellence. This is a wonderful quality to have in both men and women.

 Humorous:

I know that a lot of women say they love a man who can make them laugh but I am not sure what that has to do with being a good man. If it means someone who do not take themselves and the world too seriously then it a great quality. We need someone who can laugh at or shrug off their mistakes and not descend in a cloud of depression for extensive periods of time.

Strong strength: I think this means strength of character. Someone who can handle the challenges of life without caving in or backing out. Also a good man is someone who can handle the waves and tides of a woman’s emotion.

However this can have a negative side effect. Strong men also dominate and even bully people.

 Ambition:

While it is good to have a good dose of ambition, (after all who wants a workless person in their life) a man who is overly ambitious usually tend to prioritize his ambition over his family. While he is making millions of dollars they starve for his attention and interest, that I not an example who a good man.

 Leadership:

Leadership is another double edged sword. Being a good leader isn’t necessarily a great trait for a relationship. People who are great leaders do like to take charge and get things done. They expect you to follow instructions without questions and have a way ignoring what you want. Many of the great leaders I know do not really have great relationships.

If you can find some who can be a leader yet sensitive enough to take your feelings and opinions into consideration then there is a good man you should marry.

Provider

Interestingly some women would say that they can provide for themselves so this is not essential for them. Others contend that at least a man should be able to provide for himself. Not many women like the idea of providing for a man.

Social companion:

Hmmm. While women still like the girl’s night out they still seem to want someone who can escort them to various places and represent them highly, especially when they are in the company of family and friends.

Man who is willing to match what you are looking for:

Actually this is more crucial than many people think. Most people are attracted, not to opposites, but other people who are similar to them. A lot of couples actually even look like each other. Hence a good man should at least have the qualities you are looking for in a mate.

Other crucial qualities that are not mentioned

• Kindness
• Tolerance
• Someone who can manage their feeling and emotions
• Caring person
• Someone with domestic skills or who is at least willing to learn. In an age where 2 people need to work this is crucial as you will be sharing the house work.

A Good woman according to these include

• Well educated
• Funny
• Likes to have a great time
• Supportive
• Good provider for the home
• Self fulfilled
• Self awareness
• Followship – interesting word and concept

For more information check out this interesting article: Is this the man for you?

How to Attract a Man in Your Life

“How do you actually attract a man or even seduce a man?” Katrina asked when she heard I was a relationship coach. You may be also wondering the same

Before I answer this, may I say that the word seduction may have negative connotation with a lot of people. The word connotes images of stripping, lap and pole dancing. It conjures pictures of skimpily dressed women who sexually flirt and tease men.

For the records let me say that this is not necessarily so. For the purposes of this article we will use the word attract instead of seduce. At any rate every woman desires to be attract and sexually appealing to men.

That said,  there is a way to attract a man (seduce) without being sleazy, tacky or being a tramp.

If you want to be the person that men find attractive, appealing and desirable then read on.

First you must understand that being attractive does not only have to do with physical appeal (dress, body, makeup, hair etc). That is only part of it – and a small part I may add. Beauty attracts the eyes but character secures the heart.

Powerful “can’t-get-you-out-the-mind” all starts with you. Yes to attract a man you need to have the right mind set. If you want to get a man hooked on you, wanting to stick around you and coming back to you every time you must realize this: Your attitude about yourself will condition how he thinks and treats you.

Here are several things that will drastically make a man respect and see you as differently (special) from all other women.

Elegance

Elegance is behaving in a way that put you above the common class of people. You speak properly and know how to conduct yourself in company. You are cultured.

speak properly. Try and master the language that you speak as people will judge you based on how you speak. Learn etiquette and manners, as these will help you to conduct yourself in a manner that men would be delighted to take you out. This will help you to attract a man or the man of your dreams.

Internal locus of control

Wow that is a fancy name for simply not being controlled by external circumstances. You are not fazed by what people think about you; you do not easily fly off the handle when things upset you. You manage your emotions well. This simple makes people (not only men) have high regard and respect for you.

You have a mind of your own. You have your own ideas and opinions. You can agree if something makes sense to you buy you can also calmly explain why you differ with his ideas.

Mystique

If it is easy for men to figure you out then they will find you flat and boring. You will find it hard to attract a man

So you should not be always available for him or his plans.

You keep him trying to wonder what makes you tick by being rather mysterious.

Revel in your femininity

Men are blown away with that which is different from them – femaleness. So embrace your womanhood and let it ooze out of your pores. You will attract men like bees to honey.

This does not mean you have to be weak or a floor mat. You can be female and strong. In fact you feminine essence is so powerful that you can literally capture men with it.

How can you be feminine you ask?

Never try to compete with men, its not worth it. He can be right and you can be smart.

Ask him to do things even when you are perfectly capable of easily doing them.

Let him display his gentleman like graces. If he does not open the door, stand patiently and wait. He will catch on and do it. Then gracefully thank him and let him know that you think he is such a gentleman.

So you see, to attract a man is not really as mysterious you you thing. To find out more on how to get the man of your dreams check out this powerful program.

How to do get the guy you want? This is a question many single women want Want to know how to go about getting the guy you want?

Well you do not have to search too far. Jess McCann actually wrote a book on about how to get the guy you want, it is called:

You Lost Him at Hello: A Saleswoman’s Secrets to Closing the Deal with Any Guy You Want

Two people were used to see if Jess’s theory works.Would they be able to get the guy?

What the biggest challenge both of the wome faced in getting the guy they want?

Meeting guys was the single greatest challenge they both had. This can easily be your big challenge too.

Jess, former sales woman, feels that single women need to approach dating much like a sales man would go about getting sales. Hmmm. Doesn’t sound very romantic, does it?

1. Prospecting

“A lot of women have the mentallity of ‘I’m not going to do anything.’ As a sales person I cannot sit at home and thing that a customer will call me when I least expect it… You physically have to do something in order to meet men,” Jess says.

How do you prospect?

Simple.

Get out and about – parks, gyms, churches, clubs, libraries – anywhere, just make it a habit to go places.

Click on image to find out how to captivate a man

Internet. I am not just talking about dating sites. You can join groups and social networking site. How about getting on forums that are of interest to you.

Ask friends. Yep ask your friends to introduce you to their friends. Did you know that many women are now happily married to husbands who were introduced to them by a friend or family

Talk to men. I know you think that this is crazy, but believe me, men are humans and no one will kill you if you try to talk to them. Men love it when women talk to them. To get the guy you must start talking to as many men as possible.

What should you talk to men about. Anything. Just converse with them as if they were a casual friend.

To make it even easier Jess has a simple principle to get men to talk to you.

2. S.E.E.

S is for Smile. A smile makes you seem more approachable.

E is for Eye Contact. Make eye contact with someone and they will pick up that you are interested in them.

E. is for Energy. Have great energy about you. Do not go out when you are tired or down. You want to be fresh and full of energy. Energitic vibes always attract people to you.

Get the guy you want can be a fun process, so go out and try these simple dating tips and you will be surprised at the attention you get.

Another good resource to get the guy

Are you single and wondering when you will ever get a guy in your life?

Well today we are going to share secrets of how to get a guy.

You may be like ___ she is searching for love but have not been able to get a guy for over 5 years. Some of the guys she has dated do not seem interested in committing to a relationship. This frustrates her even more.

Find out what you are doing wrong

First you must understand that there is something that you are not doing right. If most guys are avoiding developing a strong relationship with you there is something that they are picking up which prevents them from going any further.

Do not fall for the myth that you are good enough and men should aggressively court your attention. Remember there is a lot of competition.

Prospecting.

This may sound rather crude for romance but it is important to find ways to interest prospective suitors. This brings us to the concept of filling your funnel.

Fill your funnel

When a prospect that you like is on the radar it may be very tempting to ignore and discard everyone else. But it is not wise to put all your eggs in one basket. If things do not work out you will be back to square one. If you have several possibilities then you can quickly and easily switch your attention to one of the other prospects.

Make it easy for guys to approach you.

You may know that one of the greatest fears that guys have is rejection. So lower the risk and make it easy for guys to approach you. This is very crucial step in how to get a guy. How can you do this? Use the S.E.E. approach.

Smile: a smile indicates a welcoming attitude. It tells people that you are friendly and approachable.

Make eye contact. We communicate a lot through our eyes. When we make eye contact we send a signal that we want to make a connection.

Energy. Radiate energy and happy vibes. People are magnetically drawn to you if you have high energy and confidence. This is one of the best ways to get a guy.

So go girl. Put yourself out there. Talk to guys, Smile with Guys and most of all get a guy.

Remember to check back here for more information to help you get a guy

What do modern single men and women want from each other?

In this article we will reveal exactly what singles want.

Before I do that howeve let me ask you a personal question:

• As a single woman what do you actually want from a prospective husband?
• As a single man what are you looking for in a wife?

A new study has shown some rather surprising results to these questions.

Dr. Jennifer Hartstein revealed these amazing answers on CBS early morning show.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4bqqtolzSs

After polling over 5000 singles here are some of the amazing results:

What are modern men looking for?

Good news for women want is looking to marry. Men 21-24 actually want and desire marriage. Even men over 50 years want to marry too.

It gets even better.

Get this,  men really want to have children more that women. Wow, that is very surprising. Whether or not they up to the responsibilities of being a dad is a totally different question.

Now let’s see what post modern women are looking for in a relationship.

Women are calling for

• More personal space
• Own interest and space
• Girl’s night out

Interestingly what women want in relationships does not match up with what makes a relationship work.

Why?

Based on what modern women are saying they would like, it seems that they want to still have their independence while still having a relationship. They want to have the cake and eat it at the same time

This is what relationship expert Willard Harley calls independent behaviour. Independent behaviour is being in relationship and making decisions and acting as if you are the only person concerned. You are acting as if you are free, single and disengaged.

What is the result of this?

According to Harley this is a love buster. A love buster causes you spouse to lose love for you. A relationship by definition means that two people share. They share time, personal space and even some activities and hobbies.

It does not mean that you have to be clingy and possessive. No. But it does mean sharing. While friends and girls night out are fine, they should be have second place to your spouse. When they begin to have priority then it spells trouble for the relationship.

The report also goes out to mention that 35% or people who have a one-night stand end up having a relationship with each other. Interesting!

However this is definitely not the preferred way to start a relationship. I would say that the odds are against you in many ways if you have one-night stands.

You can contract sexual diseases and there is still a 65% change that it will not work out.

Why not get to know the person first, then get into a secure relationship which can mature into marriage before getting involved sexually.

Yeah, I know that is old school and un-cool, but it is still give you the best changes of having a thriving, long lasting relationship.

Now how about finding a relationship:

1.       Give people second chance. Give yourself the chance of really getting to know someone. See and interact with them a couple of times before making up your mind. You never know someone you have initially rejected by have been a good match for you.

2.       Go out and join groups and clubs who provide things and activities you enjoy.

Do you want to know how to keep a man interested in you?

Here are 11 ways to keep your man interested in you.

How do you actually getting your boyfriend, husband, spouse, partner or man deeply interested in you and the relationship?

This guy has some really great ideas on how to keep a relationship with a man. He is funny and also crude – he swears a lot.

If you can get pass his swearing you can pick up some really great secret tips on how to keep a man.

• Don’t ask single women advice on how to keep your man. I totally agree. Single women are great expert on one thing single-hood. If they know how to get and keep a relationship they would be in one right now.
• He says that you should complement your man. Actually I would say that compliments are for women. You need to praise, and appreciate your man. Praise him for his talents and anything he has done or achieved. Show appreciation for things he does that makes you feel happy. Believe me as simple as that sounds you will be shocked that he will keep doing it.
• Don’t try to change a man. Hmmm. I have a different angle to what this guy is saying. Yes don’t try to change a man, but guess what? You can influence a man to do lots of things. Use your feminine power to influence a man, and he will stay with you a very long time. If you don’t know how to do this check out this blog or contact me right now using the contact form here. Never compromise!
• Learn what your man is like and work with him. Yep you are right dude. Study his personality and idiosyncrasies. The more you know about him the better it is to work with him and the longer the relationship will work.
• Manage your jealous streak. Yes you will sometimes feel threatened by other girls/women who look good and who try to dominate his time. However if you over react all the time then you will eventually drive him away. Creating a self fulfilling prophecy - He will lose interest in you and the relationship.
• Keep up appearances. Men like beauty. No you do not have to get a boob job or anything like that but keep fit and eat healthy. You will feel better, live longer and keep his attention for a long time. Make the effort.
• Spontaneity. Surprise your man from time. Cook his favourite dinner, buy a gift for him even when its not his birthday. Do something that you know will make him feel good when he least expect. It could be something you have said you will never do but he wants you to do. Having a u-turn on something will endear him more to you and keep his interest in you.
• OK. This one is a bit sensitive for women. Women need to talk. They love to talk and they will talk all day, every day if given the opportunity. This can drive a man nuts. I will suggest that you leave your girly talk for your girl friends. Give your man a break from the constant chatter. Actually I am talking about ordinary conversation. Nagging and complaining are relationship sins which can get you excommunicated fast.
• Be sexually open and confident. I agree 100%. Men love sex – all variation of sex. However this does not mean you have to lower your integrity. If there is something you definitely don’t feel comfortable doing, politely decline and explain why e.g. two-some. However be open to new ideas, suggestions and positions. Sexually satisfy your man – this will aid in keeping his interest in you.
• Support your man dreams, goals and drive. This is a sublime point, pay attention to it.
• Respect and tolerate a you man’s preferences. Don’t think that your man has to be into everything that you are into e.g. hobbies, habits and career. Understand that he may not want to do it, however if he is disrespectful about these things that you need to move on. It will not work. Don’t force use your influence and maybe he will eventually come around to liking the idea.

This is a great tutorial that will help you to keep your man for a very long time, however he peppered it with a lot of swearing, if you cannot stomach swear words then you I have summarized the points about for you.

Lets hear it dude – next time be respectful of people you are talking to and stop the swearing!

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