Get Your Man To Commit

• Would you like to get married but your boyfriend is dragging his romantic feet?
• Have you been praying for your man to pop the question so you can get the ring?
• Has you man promised that he will marry you when the time is right – but the time has not been right for over 3 years of being with him.
• Does your man get upset whenever you bring up the question of settling down or getting married?
• Is your boyfriend a commitment phobe – he has commitment phobia. He tells you he has been through the trauma of divorce and he is scared it might happy to him.
• Are you just plain tired of waiting for him? He is killing your time, life and energy by stringing you out.
• Or are you looking for someone who is marriage minded? Someone who wants to settle down and have a family?

Well you are not alone!

Thousands of women across the world are in a similar situation to you.

Finally A Step By Step Guide How To Get A Guy To Marry You

Take Tamika. She has been with Jackson for coming up to 5 years. She has faithfully helped him to grow his business and supported him through thick and thin. What has she gotten for it?

When she asked him about the relationship he was not interested. He didn’t even want to share any part of the business with her. What a romantic tragedy.

She is now back at square one. In fact she is further back she has lost time, money, energy and youthfulness.

This does not have to be you. The good news is you can indeed be the girl who gets the ring.

You can get the commitment you want. Yes you read that right you can indeed get your man to commit.

And you do not have to use ultimatum, manipulation or any other desperate means.

You can get your man to marry you all on his own steam and initiation.

Listen to this powerful FREE video presentation that will reveal the secrets of getting a man to marry you – Girl Gets Ring.

Science of Attraction series by Derren Brown, Kat Akingbade and Charlie set out to find what actually works and what doesn’t in the dating scene.

In this scenario several actors were chosen to go on a speed dating activity with several young girls.

Guy A was to use dating techniques on the girls – relaxed confident open posture, conversation starters and conversation extension techniques.

Guy B was just to be himself and try and be nice to the girls.

Guy C was to be cocky, overly confident, alpha-male and almost arrogant with the girls.

Although all of the guys got dates, the experiment showed that guy A was the most popular with the girls. Guy B came a close second with guy C trailing in the distant.

When the girl who chose guy C found out she had been played she felt gutted.

The creators of the show content that dating techniques work to build confidence but we should not depend on them.

“Be yourself” both Derren and Kat encourage.

The irony is that dating and trying to get a date makes it very difficult to be ourselves. The natural response for most people is to be nervous, unsure and somewhat uncomfortable when trying to get a date. You just don’t know how the prospective person is going to respond to you.

The producers used actors for this show. It would have been good to also have an ordinary guy (a non-actor) to see how he would respond against the actors.

Both Kat and Derren emphasised that you should be yourself.

I think they could probably give more specific advice on how to be yourself.

• How should you be yourself? It’s definitely not as easy as they make it out to be especially if you are around someone you have the hots for.
• How do you overcome your nerves and get a great date.
• What can you do to be more confident?
• Where can you go to get more information about this process?

Unfortunately the presenters did not explain how you can spot a fake or someone who might be manipulating you. That would be very good information to have.

Actually I do not really believe in the whole dating thing. I contend that it is counterproductive and even dangerous if you are looking for a long term committed spouse or partner.

A good dater does not necessarily translate into a great spouse. That is probably why many Pick Up Artists are just serial daters. There is also a notoriously high rate of breakups with PUAs who go on to have relationships.

If you to find out how to get to quickly and easily find the right person for you without expensive, time wasting dates you may want to check out the The Right Man Plan – coming soon.

• If you are a woman would you propose to a man?
• In this post modern world is it right for a woman to initiate marriage?
• If you are a man would you like it if a woman proposes to you?

My friend Michelle Brooks of Brides and Prejudice feels that a woman should never propose. She says that men should be the leaders and initiators.

“If a woman does that he can always say that you are the one who wanted it,” Michelle’s told me on a television debate on the topic.

What do you think about marriage proposal by women?

Actually it has been found that women are usually very active in initiating and orchestrating marriages for a long time.

Many men would drag their feet and do nothing but enjoy the relationship if their women allowed it. It is the women who usually drop hints; bring up some sort of discussion about or around it.

Sometime it may the family or friends who have to prod and prompt the guy to do something about the ongoing relationship that seems to be stuck.

So after all it is usually women who have to take the lead anyway.

I read someplace that women have to make up the minds of men.

Let me  give some powerful ways way to deal with this if you want to take your relationship up to the next level – marriage.

Assess the likelihood of getting a yes.

On a scale of 1-10 what is the probability of him saying yes to you? If in doubt do without. I say don’t do it if the answer is below 7 or 8. Obviously much of this depends on the strength and health of the relationship.

Chose the best time.

It is highly unlikely that you will get a meaningful (or even positive) response while he is watching football or his favourite time has lost the game. However the probability of getting a yes increases dramatically if his team has won and he is in celebratory mood – in other words talk to him about this either when he is very relaxed or in high spirits.

Do not ask him a closed question

e.g. Will you marry me? This definitely sets you up for disappointment as he is forced to answer YES or NO. He may want to marry you but is not emotionally, psychologically and financially ready yet. We have found that men are more willing to marry when they feel they can fully support and take care of a family.

Instead use the soft or feminine approach.

Ride on the back of what people say.

If someone has mentioned that you both like a great couple or even that you look as they you were both married use that as the lead in to a conversation about marriage.

You can say, “That got me thinking, we do get on very well together. (List some of the ways you both gel). What do you think about it that or how do you feel?” This helps to gauge where he is at and what he is thinking about the issue.

You may even start a conversation by telling/giving him a list of all the ways and all the things he does that make you feel great, inspired and happy. Tell him how happy you are about having him in your life and how you wish you that he can be a permanent part of your life. Then ask him his opinion about such a prospect. Again this gives you some indication of where he is.

One person created a photo book of all the memorable moments of their relationship and on the last page she wrote a special note say how much she would like to spend the rest of her life with him, then asked “how do you feel about us getting married?“

If you are sure very sure about his feeling about you then you may want to approach it dead on. One day when you are both having really great time together simply say: “we get on so good together why don’t we just get married?”

Assume a yes.

Out of the blue one day simply ask him: When are you going to pick up the invitations and send them out?” When he ask what you are talking about simple reply – the wedding invitations. This will definitely start a discussion about the wedding. Be sure to always keep positive and expectant. Assume that it’s on.

Get others to talk to him.

When people ask you about getting married simply tell them to talk to him as you are ready and simply waiting on him to pop the question. Usually people can be much better at having an objective conversation as they are not emotionally involved.

Be prepared for any and all possible answers.

In your mind run through how he may or may not respond. Also get ready for the worst possible scenario – a rejection.

Sometimes men are not ready for this and would not be able to give a clear and definite answer. They may need time to crystallize how that really feels about getting married to you. So you may tell him that he could take some time and get back to you within a week or two. (Be sure to give a deadline for him to come back to you – if he doesn’t within that time you can accept that as a no).

Some men do not feel ready to take on the responsibility of a family right now because he may not have reached where he wants to be in his career or have the resources to do so. You will then have to have a discussion on how long this can take and if it makes sense for you to wait. Lots of things may happen in this time.

If he brushes you off telling you how much he loves you and that you are the only one without some ball park time frame when he will be able to move the relationship on then “he isn’t that into you.” Cut your losses and move on.

If he tells you that he does not see himself married to you then you need to immediately terminate the relationship and start looking for someone who looking to get married too.

Sometimes when you make a definite cut many men realize that they have lost something valuable to them and want to return. Never return to a relationship with definite clear-cut ideas on where he is going to take the relationship and the time frame in which this would happen.

You would think that love would be free?

Not according to recent research by online dating site match.

They found that the people searching for love spent on average £3.4b – that is 3.4 Billion Pound Sterling – in their quest to find love last year.

What do people actually spend all this money on?

I was thinking that match-making services, online dating sites and relationship coaching might be the answer – but no.  Well over £421 million was spent on transport and £324 million in hair salons. That is not to mention new clothes, shoes and accessories. Then there are entertainment and food accounting for £1.3b.

Does love have to be costly? Can you find love on a shoe string budget?

You bet it can. Here are 14 ways you can find love without burning a hole in your pocket.

1. Go to local events
2. Join free dating sites
3. Online forums and groups
4. Join clubs and groups that interests you
5. Free public meetings, conferences, seminars
6. Go on hikes and parks and enjoy nature together
7. Instead of going to the movies, hire a dvd and enjoy it together. Staying in is the new going out
8. Instead of eating out cook a homemade meal and treat your date. Better yet both of you cook a meal together.
9. If have a hobby or sport invite you date to join in. Teach him or her. This would help you to bond far more than a restaurant date.
10. Learn a new skill together e.g. dancing, skating, playing music etc
11. Do volunteering together
12. Do a project together or study together if you both are in University
13. Do some DIY together
14. Play games together

One of the best ways to invest your money in order to find love is to get a relationship coach to help you through the process.

I will be happy to help you to get someone in your life this year. Contact me today!

• Is marriage dead?
• Do people still believe in the institution of marriage?
• Should you get married?

Michelle Brooks presents: Why should I get married

This is very refreshing documentary about why people should and do get married. The show highlights the alive-and-well desire for people to get married.

It interviews pro-marriage people who are either married or looking to get married.

While this is great, it would have been great to get the views of anti-marriage protesters. It would have been also good to hear the stories of people who have had a negative experience with marriage. What do these people have to say about the intuition?

Maybe in other episodes the programme gives a more balanced view.

What would have been equally great is seeing what the research scientists have found about marriage and the effects of the institution on men, women, children and society.

The Case for Marriage They Don’t Want You to Hear Maggie Gallagher and University of Chicago Prof. Linda Waite gives solid research based evidence on why married is good.

“Marriage may provide individuals with a sense of meaning in their lives,” Dr. Waite said, “and a sense of obligation to others, inhibiting risky behaviors and encouraging healthy ones.”

For more tips about marriage and relationship see “Is marriage outdated?”

A case for marriage

Well according to Rachel Greenwald, author of the book “Have Him At Hello” that is the wrong question.

You should really be asking the question “How do I find a good man?”

This question makes all the difference and it helps you to focus on what you can do to not only find but also attract a great single man into your life.

Rachel Greenwald says you should actually have a plethora of methods – a strategic plan – to help you find a good single man.

The question should really be: “What do I NEED to do to get out there and meet new people?” Rachel says.

“What you need is a diversified portfolio of dating activities, you have got to have a lot of irons in the fire,” Rachel Greenwald

Here are some of her suggestions.

• Starbucks or a commercial centre where lots of people frequent
• 2 online dating sites – a large site and a niche site
• Meet up people with common interests e.g meetup.com, clubs, groups etc
• Facebook – connect with friends and old acquaintances
• Network  and get fix ups through friends and family
• Go out – never stay at home. Greenwald calls home the 4 letter dating dirty word

• What attracts a man to a woman?

• What attracts a woman to a man?

• Do you choose who you are attracted to?

• Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?

Check out this short documentary and find out what attracts men to women and what attracts women to men.

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Traditionally most people think that beauty is really down to the individual. You may even have the concept that the people you choose the people you are attracted to.

Well today I want to share some really amazing discovery. You will be absolutely blown away by these scientific discoveries.

Believe it or not beauty is universal. All over the world men are attracted to the same things in women; everywhere women are attracted to similar things in men.

• How to know if this is the right person for you?
• Have you ever wondered if the person catches your eye is worth pursuing?

Well there is a quick and easy way to tell if you should invest your valuable time and effort in pursuing someone or it’s a total waste of your precious time.

Donna had the “hots” for Tony but spent an entire year obsessing about if she should even try to get his interest. Even though she was a sharp college educated nurse she became absolutely confused about deciding if she should pursue a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

Alas Donna waited too long to decide. Tony fell in love with someone else and later got married. Would he have chosen Donna to be his bride, if she made herself available? We don’t exactly know but we do know she did not give herself a fighting chance.

Many men tell me that women that they liked but never showed any interest in them would incredulously tell them that they like them after they get married to someone else.

This does not have to be you? Here are several ways to quickly and easily tell if you should pursue someone you like.

David Coleman discusses exactly how you should do this in the video below

Questions you can ask:

1. Am I attracted to them?
2. Is there chemistry?
3. Do I believe them?
4. Is there desire?
5. Go out on at least one date and see what your gut reaction is?

• Do you feel it time to settle down and have a family with kids?
• Not sure how to go about doing this?

Well here are 5 ways you can find a husband?

The hilarious video below do have some powerful tips you can use to find the love of your life.

The first step in finding the love of your love is to be clear about not just what you want but how you want to be treated.

Believe me many people miss this vital and all important step in finding a soulmate.

Some gurus tell you to list the qualities you are looking for. However if you are clear about the experiences and treatment you want in a marriage then it would be far easier to the love you deserve.

There are several important parts you will to look at. This is crucial so listen very careful. People miss this all the time and run into huge trouble in their relationship later. Don’t make that mistake.

This is a secret the gurus never tell you. Here is the secret. First be clear about what marriage involves and reverse engineer the process to find the best husband who can fit with what you want

Marriage life is made up of several predictable parts

1. Functional: that is making money to pay bills buy food and clothes. It also includes cooking, washing and cleaning.

2. Children: from changing nappies, bathing, feeding, playing with them, putting them to bed to  school runs and disciplining them.

3. Romance: This is the only part most people focus on. Sex, romance and recreation (dates, dinners, holidays).

What you need to do is to picture how you would like your husband to be involved in all of these.

Bingo you will be looking for someone who can fit the role of all of these. Maybe not all, but as much as possible.

Believe me this will reduce your chance of divorce considerably.

2. Planning. While I agree that you should make a plan on how you will go about doing this, I don’t think you should be so military-like about it.

I say you should enjoy the process and have fun.

3. Look in the right places. Yep, he got that one right. Look in the right places. If you are a religious person it is no use searching in a rave for a soul mate. If you are looking for a well manner husband, it is highly unlikely that you will find him in the ghetto.

4.  Be flexible.That is a good suggestion. If something doesn’t work try something else.

Are you only dreaming about finding a husband?

5. Patience. I know time may not be on your side but don’t rush the process. I have a saying “Time is the crucible in which great relationships are cooked.”

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These guys discuss what a good man or right man is :

Sensitive:

I do agree that someone who is sensitive to your feelings, needs and desires is a good even great man.

Noble:

This is a word that is not often used these days. What is nobility? The word originally referred to people of certain upper class who distinguished themselves by the way they dress, acted and even talked. If you were descendent of such family you were said to be of noble birth.

However the word later also came to mean of high moral character, having dignity, eminence and excellence. This is a wonderful quality to have in both men and women.

 Humorous:

I know that a lot of women say they love a man who can make them laugh but I am not sure what that has to do with being a good man. If it means someone who do not take themselves and the world too seriously then it a great quality. We need someone who can laugh at or shrug off their mistakes and not descend in a cloud of depression for extensive periods of time.

Strong strength: I think this means strength of character. Someone who can handle the challenges of life without caving in or backing out. Also a good man is someone who can handle the waves and tides of a woman’s emotion.

However this can have a negative side effect. Strong men also dominate and even bully people.

 Ambition:

While it is good to have a good dose of ambition, (after all who wants a workless person in their life) a man who is overly ambitious usually tend to prioritize his ambition over his family. While he is making millions of dollars they starve for his attention and interest, that I not an example who a good man.

 Leadership:

Leadership is another double edged sword. Being a good leader isn’t necessarily a great trait for a relationship. People who are great leaders do like to take charge and get things done. They expect you to follow instructions without questions and have a way ignoring what you want. Many of the great leaders I know do not really have great relationships.

If you can find some who can be a leader yet sensitive enough to take your feelings and opinions into consideration then there is a good man you should marry.

Provider

Interestingly some women would say that they can provide for themselves so this is not essential for them. Others contend that at least a man should be able to provide for himself. Not many women like the idea of providing for a man.

Social companion:

Hmmm. While women still like the girl’s night out they still seem to want someone who can escort them to various places and represent them highly, especially when they are in the company of family and friends.

Man who is willing to match what you are looking for:

Actually this is more crucial than many people think. Most people are attracted, not to opposites, but other people who are similar to them. A lot of couples actually even look like each other. Hence a good man should at least have the qualities you are looking for in a mate.

Other crucial qualities that are not mentioned

• Kindness
• Tolerance
• Someone who can manage their feeling and emotions
• Caring person
• Someone with domestic skills or who is at least willing to learn. In an age where 2 people need to work this is crucial as you will be sharing the house work.

A Good woman according to these include

• Well educated
• Funny
• Likes to have a great time
• Supportive
• Good provider for the home
• Self fulfilled
• Self awareness
• Followship – interesting word and concept

For more information check out this interesting article: Is this the man for you?