Do you know that words can work miracles and wonders in your relationship? The impact of these words is huge.

Listen to a radio interview on the topic. Miracle words to improve relationships

Words are like catalysts which can spark amazing reactions in your relationship. Unfortunately they can also be like black magic which cast dark spells on your relationship too.

But in this program we will focus on miracle words.

I should tell you that your relationship is a work of art. You may not realize it but many unlikely things affect the way your partner respond and relate to you.

I believe that words are to the relationship what tools are to the trade man. Without tools the work will be crude and botched. With proper tools the work will be efficient, effortless and effective.

I need to tell you also the tools cannot work by themselves. They need someone with skill to use them properly. Imagine trying to using an electric saw if you don’t fully know how to manipulate properly. That can be deadly.

For relationship to work properly you not only need tools (words) but also skill to make them effective. Words in themselves mean nothing. You need to say them in the right context, with the right tone, corresponding facial expression and body language. The words must be congruent with your non-verbal communication.

Has anyone ever told you that they love you and want to do the world for you and you know deep within that they are lying through their teeth? Well, if you try to say something that you really don’t mean your partner will sense that you have some hidden motive or you are being hypocritical.

Remember also that you words can have the most powerful impact on your spouse. They may be able to ignore what other people say to and about them however, they really rely on you to feed their esteem and nourish their souls. They depend on you for emotional love nutrients.

The Bible says that “life and death are in the tongue” Proverbs

Words are like the air we blow into a balloon which causes it to expand and rise high in the sky. Or words can be the pin the can cause a slow leak or burst the balloon. What you say can indeed crush someone’s spirit or cause their self-esteem and self belief to soar sky high. In fact the words parents say to children can and do condition them for success or failure in life. That is frightening.

If you hit someone, the bruise will eventually go away.

Would you believe it if I would to tell you that world have power to affect matter.

Scientists have found that word affect water crystals. Dr, Emoto found that the water crystals that form around loving words are very different from ones formed around hurtful, hateful words.

Remember the words you use penetrate a persons mind. They arrest and affect the chain of thoughts. The person must immediately think about what was said. The thoughts are changed for good or ill. The changed thoughts create feelings and emotions which get translated into actions.

So never underestimate the power of your words.

Here are some really powerful words which can create miraculous result in your relationship.

1. You are the best thing that ever happened to me
2. If I were to live my life all  over again I would still chose you to be my wife/husband
3. If they were to line up all the men/women in the world I would make a bee-line for you – you would be my first and only choice of a partner
4. I don’t know what I would ever do without you. Or I don’t know if I could ever manage without you. Or I would be hopelessly lost if I were to lose you.
5. Even though we have been having problems I would never give you up for the world
6. The best thing I love about you is _____________

I f you want more words that can create instant miracles for your relationships email Info@hiltonsamuel.com or put your name and email in the optin form at the top of this page

Well yes and no. Online dating has gained much popularity of recent times. And I don’t think it will go away.

Let just say that you can find love any where. It is not how you find love but how you nurture and nourish it that matters.

It is important to realized that the internet is only a place where you can connet to potential lovers. Once you find someone who you are interested in you should carry out thorough checks on this person.

Start by doing a simple google search on him/her. If they are another country tell them you will like to find out more about them, if they would give you names and contact details of other people who can tell you more about them. If they are reluctant to do so, treat this as very suspicious. Make an attempt to find friends of your own in this country through social networking sites. The person should not be the only source of information about themselves.

If you both are serious try and meet the person as soon as possible – in   a public place of course. Meeting someone will help you to gather lots of non-verbal information that you can never get through skype, msn, yahoo or video conferencing.

Here is a recent radio interview on how to deal with finding love on the Internet

Dating could be bad for your chances of getting married. Below is a great quote from author Jullian Straus which makes the point very clearly

“...the process by which we decide whether or not we will have a long-term relationship with someone–is really not a good predictor of what kind of boyfriend or husband a man will make. Most of us judge the person by how good of a dater or planner they are but many of my happy committed friends tell me that the men in their lives are wonderful partners but didn’t exactly wow them in the courtship phase.” Jillian Straus

Here is a series of questions developed by John Gotman to get to know more about your spouse?

1. Ideal b/day present
2. 2 things that angers the person
3. 2 things that make them happy
4. 1 thing person would change about you
5. 1 thing you could do to improve the relationship
6. Happiest life event
7. Saddest life event
8. Biggest challenge person has faced
9. Special hobbies
10. 2 closest friends
11. Worst enemy/rival
12. 2 people admired
13. First thing person would buy if won lottery
14. 2 worst fears
15. Best way to get over being sad
16. Secret ambition
17. Favourite relative
18. Least favourite relative
19. 2 reasons mate is proudest of him/herself
20. 1 thing that makes the person feel sexy
21. 1 thing that turns the person off
22. Favourite clothes/food
23. Best way they spend free time

Also listen to the radio interview I did about it below:

How well do you know your spouse?

What to do if you are in a relationship without any love.

Is your relationship dry and empty at the moment?

If you need help contact me immediately ++ 44 (0) 7903 317 426 or email info@hiltonsamuel.com

Listen to the radio clip and let me know what you think

Are you in loveless relationship?

1. Are you carrying the relationship?
2. Do you feel that you are carrying the relationship?
3. Are doing all the work e.g. planning all the events and celebrations?
4. Are you the one who seems to be always initiating sex?
5. If things go wrong do you tend to be the one who want to make up and say sorry even if sometimes you are not to be blamed?
6. Do you feel that you love too much?
7. Does your lover seems to be taking you for granted or make minimal/no effort?

If you have answered yes to any of the above questions then here are some suggestions for you.

First you need to adjust how you think.

• You may be putting all you energies into the relationship and making the other person your entire universe.
• You may think that you must love unconditionally. Love should be reciprocal not just one way. If you continue that you will end up romantically burnt out, romantically frustrated or romantically frustrated

Here are a couple of things you can do:

• Reconnect to your friends and family and build other relationships that can sustain and support you. Remember no one person can supply all of your emotional needs – not even your husband, wife, boyfriend or girl friend.
• Establish boundaries and borders. If your spouse of partner disrespects you let them know that you are not happy about it and tell how you prefer to be treated.
• Get some hobbies and other things e.g. exercise or sports program that will help you let off some steam and rejuvenate you.
• Make it OK for the person to leave.

To hear more about this listen to the radio interview I did on Monday.

Are you the one carrying the relationship?

Why do men flake out on a relationship after getting what they want (sex)? That is what Mona wanted to know from me as an expert on relationships.

Get the love you deserve today

This guy persuaded her to get into a relationship with him. After a couple months he said he wanted to find himself and need some space. She is absolutley gutted and wanted to know why men do this.

In my radio interview this week I address this common problem and explain exactly what she should do to solve the situation.

Listen to the clip and let me know your take on the matter.

Why do men leave a relationship after getting sex

David and Elizabeth Weinbeck will be celebrating their 11th anniversary this June. The interesting thing is David advertised for his wife and let his friends chose his spouse – he had no involvement. They only spoke for 5 minutes before they got married in a mall. This is arranged marriage with a twist.

Should we let our friends and family get our bride or groom for his. Shout they chose compatible spouses for us? Canadian research has actually shown that friends and family seem to be better predictors of the longevity of marriage, than the people who are involved.

And research has also shown that arranged marriages do just as well as romance base marriages. So if you are looking to get a boyfriend or girl friend maybe we should use the network of friends and family to help us.

Actually we could easily believe this because most people meet their partners through a mutual colleague, family or friend.

Why are friends and family predictions so accurate?

• They are more objective
• They see things about us the we tend to overlook
• They see things about the other person we are emotionally blind too
• They know us in ways we don’t know ourselves

So if you are single ask each of your friend and family this simple question –

“Of all the people you know, who do you think would make a good partner for me?”

Follow that up with

“Why do you think we would make a good couple?”

You would quickly and easily get 10-20 possible suitors by the end of the week.

Listen to the audio clip below and let me know what you think

For the first time ever www.sistatalk.co.uk brings together the biggest names in the relationship and dating arena to deliver a one day workshop looking at genuine and practical ways for women to get what they desire and NEED out of their relationships.

This day will be filled with informative presentations from leading relationship coaches giving expert advice, techniques and dating tips for attracting ‘Mr Right’ and keeping sustaining a loving relationship.

Facilitated by Sonia Brown and supported by the original ‘Love Guru’ and relationship coach Hilton Samuel; bestselling authors and presenters Alwin Peter (From the Mouth of Men and In the Company of Women) and Sasha D Taylor (Broken, But I am Healed); this day will be filled with informative presentations, where our presenters will give expert advice, techniques and dating tips for attracting ‘Mr Right’ and sustaining a loving relationship.

Through interactive exercises, panel discussions and personal exploration attendees will understand how to stop ‘fear’ sabotaging their potential for successful relationships. They will also learn how to remove the waiting, wishing and worrying dilemma, and take control of their dating choices in a more balanced, controlled and powerful way!

What makes this workshop different to other relationship events?

This is a gimmick free approach to exploring today’s challenging minefield of dating; helping women to exude positive behaviour in relationships to avoid the pitfalls and dramas associated with finding and keeping their ideal partner.

The day will focus on

• Breaking down the barriers to accepting love in your life, such as insecurity, neediness
• Building self esteem
• Overcoming resentment and anger
• Developing authentic communication
• Dating without pressure
• Understanding and overcoming toxic and abusive relationships
• Surviving and healing from breakups
• Overcoming issues to sexual intimacy and emotional barriers
• Taking control of your relationships for long term happiness, joy and passion

The secret to a woman’s relationship success isn’t being lucky enough to find the ‘perfect’ man  – its strategy, and you can have it too!

So no more trusting your fate to love horoscopes or pulling in the club…. harness your own intelligence, strength and confidence and utilise those attributes to get the love and passion you desire. Don’t waste another minute, BOOK NOW!

The Sistatalk Motivational Workshop takes place on Saturday 22nd May 2010 at a reduced price of £15/£20 on the door, at the Grange, Neasden Roundabout, London NW10 between 10:00am – 4:30pm.

Please make cheques payable to NBWN and send to NBWN, Suite 501, International House, 223 Regent Street, London W1R 8QD or pay on the door.  Call 020 8575 0533 / 07956 902 487 for further details.

Are you engaged and preparing to get married? If so here are some tips and secrets you should be aware of.

Marriage preparation ideas.

1. Do get some marriage counselling or marriage preparation classes. Believe me it helps. You will be asked to think about things your love-struck mind would never even consider.
2. Look for and adopt what I call a marriage mentor. Find a couple who have been married for a long time and speak with them about how they are able to make a success of it. They could also be a port of call for times when you need someone to turn to when challenging times arise in your marriage.
3. Be aware of some of the misconceptions of marriage.

• Marriage is not something to make you happy. As strange as it seems if your are usually a pessimistic and dull person marriage will not automatically change that. Yes you can find happiness in relating with your spouse in a healthy and abundant way, however you need to make it happen
• Neitther of you will never be attracted to someone else. You will at sometime or the other find someone else, other than your partner, attractive. This doesn’t mean you have lost your love for them. It is natural. What is important is that you manage your feelings and stick to your commitment to your spouse.
• You will aways be friends. Living together with someone else, although initially exciting will eventually bring problems and issues. What is important is how you handle the differences
• You have to do everything together. Although you are married, you are not c0-joined twins. Insisting that you do things together may suffocate the other person and stifle the love.
• You will never be bored or lonely. Funnily a lot of people want to get married because they want to share their live with someone else. They want to escape boredom and loneliness. However there may be time in the life of your marriage that you can become lonely; there are also times when you may have spikes of boredom. These ideally would only be temporary moments and permanent fixtures.