How can you become extremely attractive to men

What is the single most attractive feature of a woman?

Do you think that the most attractive thing a woman can have is her face or body – Pretty face and sexy body?

Some people say that they way you dress, walk and talk is very essential in attracting men. Others claim that you need to think positively about yourself. They say you must be attractive to yourself before you can become attractive to men.

Well all of the above are true. But there is something missing. In fact I will go as far as to say that  without this missing part, everything else will fail when it comes to attracting and keeping men in a relationship.

While it is true that you need to love yourself and have a positive self image, you do not have to wait until you have total self confidence before attracting men. In fact your confidence can grow as you attract men. In other words instead of waiting until you have total self confidence – which may never happen – why not interact with men and as they respond to you, your confidence will increase. Think about it, when learning to drive did you wait until you were totally sure about yourself as a driver to go on the road. As you drove a car (with all your uncertainties) you became more competent and your driving confidence increased.

Let’s get back to the issue of things that attract men.

Men are powerfully attracted to you just being a woman. Men are magnetized to the feminine aspect of you. Your femininity your femaleness is one of the greatest attractive features.

What is femininity or femaleness?

First let’s make it clear what femininity is NOT about

One face book group (Feminine not Feminist) puts it nicely and succinctly

“It’s not about being

• Sexy or hot,
• Manipulative or controlling,
• Coquettish,
• Flirtatious,
• Giggly or annoying… “

They go on to say that “femininity is about:

1.       Being soft and delicate but not fragile…

2.       Being strong and feisty but staying sweet and adorable…

3.       Remaining firm and uncompromising while simultaneously being submissive and respectful…

4.       Staying charmingly childlike while angelically principled…

5.       Having a great sense of humour, a highly developed sense of self-worth…

6.       Valuing yourself enough to expect someone to take care of you just because you’re worth it.”

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What do men find attractive in women? Psychologist Dr Debbie Magids recently wrote about the 8 rules that attract men.

Before she launched into the 8 things that attract men she shared an insight I have been sharing here on my blog, with my clients and in the media.

“If he makes you feel good, you’ll be attracted, at least to some degree. If he makes you feel bad, well, no second date!” she says.

I couldn’t agree more. In fact I will go further, your ability to attract a man is largely due to how you make him feel when he thinks about you, hears your voice, sees you and when he is with you.

Dr Magids says men need to feel 8 simple things:

1. Needed. order cialis professional She says to make a man feel needed you need to show your vulnerabilities. In my RIGHT MAN PLAN program I give women a simply formula. It involves asking men to help them in one way or the other. What Magids didn’t mention is that you should always show your gratitude for anything a man does for you. Be certain to let them know you appreciate their efforts. This ensures that they will be always willing to do more for you.

2. Desired. Here Magids suggests that you complement men. This is where I think she is using her feminine judgement. Women like to be complimented, men love to be praised. It pays romantic dividends to praise a man.

3. Challenged. I totally agree with her. You cannot be too easy to get, but you should not play too hard either. Particularly when it comes to sexuality. Although she hasn’t mentioned this I think it is worth saying that you should have very high standard in this area. Regardless to what the liberals will tell you, men still judge women based on how promiscuous and easy they are to conquer sexually.

4. Funny. 5. Smart 6.Interesting. Magids clumps these together by saying “Rules #4, #5, and #6: Listen attentively, nod frequently, compliment him on how smart he is, and laugh at his jokes”

Although I can understand the point she is making, I think that the point that men like to be thought of as being funny is overrated. Yes we do like to the looked up to, adored and thought of as interesting. Yes, we definitely wouldn’t like to think that we are a bore, but I don’t think that many men want women to think of them as stand up comedians, jokers and entertainers.

7. Important. 8. Powerful. Again she clusters these together. I absolutely agree. If ever you can make a men feel that he is important to you and he is the most important person in your world, he will eat out of your hands.

Two surprising things that she has missed are confidence, and femininity.

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To read Dr Magids 8 things that men find attractive go here

To win with men you need to be a keen observer of them. Study them carefully and never be afraid to make contact with any man. You will be surprise, apart from their sexual differences, that  they do have similar problems and challenges like you. They are just as vulnerable – even when they pretend not to be. They are just as eager and to make friends and go out as you are. Men are humans too.

While looks, makeup, attire have their places, many women are shocked to find out that these are not the only factors which cialis sales online attract men.

“A man appreciates your ability to enhance your natural beauty, but they also need to know you can be comfortable just as you are,” says relationship expert Barbara DeAngelis.

Re-evaluative counsellor, Harvey Jackins,  agrees. He says a woman can attract any man she wishes to have as a good, close friend if she does three things.

1. Think of herself as worthwhile, likeable and attractive. Communicate to the man that she has this attitude towards herself by her posture, looks facial expression, tone of voice and words.
2. Indicate to the man that she finds him interesting, attractive and desirable as a friend.
3. Communicate to the man that he is not in danger of being personally rejected by her.

“Cosmetics, clothes, figure, complexion and all the other supposed ingredients of attractiveness, have very little to do with the attraction a man feels for her, compared to the deep inherent attractiveness of a woman who can communicate these three things,” Jackins says.

Creator of the cassette series “Light his/her Fire,” Ellen Kreidman goes further.  She says the way to win anyone’s heart of to make them feel validated and special when they are around you.

“If you can make some feel better around you than when they are with any one else, that person will love you, and want to be always around you,” Kreidman says.

This is why 27 year old computer technician Kenton is crazy about Carol. Carol listened to him as if he were the only person in the universe. She was interested in his life and every other aspect of his life. He always felt respected and validated. He never felt that she would deliberately hurt or reject him. It was the first time he felt so accepted and respected in all his life. He was simply wild about her.

One of the primary thoughts to keep in mind when you are dealing with men is to treat them with respect and sensitivity. Treat them the way you would like to be treated. They are humans like you too. You will find that they will respond to love and kindness just as easily as any woman would.

The next time you see a man who stimulates your interest do not hesitate to make the first move. Do not leave love to chance — follow your heart, reach out and befriend him.