Before she launched into the 8 things that attract men she shared an insight I have been sharing here on my blog, with my clients and in the media.

“If he makes you feel good, you’ll be attracted, at least to some degree. If he makes you feel bad, well, no second date!” she says.

I couldn’t agree more. In fact I will go further, your ability to attract a man is largely due to how you make him feel when he thinks about you, hears your voice, sees you and when he is with you.

Dr Magids says men need to feel 8 simple things:

1. Needed. She says to make a man feel needed you need to show your vulnerabilities. In my RIGHT MAN PLAN program I give women a simply formula. It involves asking men to help them in one way or the other. What Magids didn’t mention is that you should always show your gratitude for anything a man does for you. Be certain to let them know you appreciate their efforts. This ensures that they will be always willing to do more for you.

2. Desired. Here Magids suggests that you complement men. This is where I think she is using her feminine judgement. Women like to be complimented, men love to be praised. It pays romantic dividends to praise a man.

3. Challenged. I totally agree with her. You cannot be too easy to get, but you should not play too hard either. Particularly when it comes to sexuality. Although she hasn’t mentioned this I think it is worth saying that you should have very high standard in this area. Regardless to what the liberals will tell you, men still judge women based on how promiscuous and easy they are to conquer sexually.

4. Funny. 5. Smart 6.Interesting. Magids clumps these together by saying “Rules #4, #5, and #6: Listen attentively, nod frequently, compliment him on how smart he is, and laugh at his jokes”

Although I can understand the point she is making, I think that the point that men like to be thought of as being funny is overrated. Yes we do like to the looked up to, adored and thought of as interesting. Yes, we definitely wouldn’t like to think that we are a bore, but I don’t think that many men want women to think of them as stand up comedians, jokers and entertainers.

7. Important. 8. Powerful. Again she clusters these together. I absolutely agree. If ever you can make a men feel that he is important to you and he is the most important person in your world, he will eat out of your hands.

Two surprising things that she has missed are confidence, and femininity.

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To read Dr Magids 8 things that men find attractive go here

To be a man magnet like this you need to be, you guessed, ATTRACTIVE.

Do I mean you should have to have a coca-cola bottle shaped body, shiny long flowing hair cascading down your neck and shoulders and a glossy magazine face? This would help but there is far more to attraction than physical beauty. The type of attraction I am speaking about will make you to beat the top models hands down, without having to pay of boob jobs or going on a diet to reduce your weight.

Many women make the fatal mistake to think that men are only obsessed by the way they look and dress. Hence they invest vast amounts of money in clothes, makeup, shoes and handbags.

There 3 aspects of beauty, 2 of which you may not be aware of. It is not spoken about in the popular media. Here are the 3 aspects of attraction:

1. 1. Physical beauty. I will not expand on this as I know you already have enough information about grooming, dressing and sexy body
2. 2. Attractive life. By this I mean people must see that you have a life with many things happening within it. Have you ever heard the term “get a life”. Well it implies that you have a boring, routine life that needs some excitement, activity and fun. When you are busy in your professional, personal, career, entertaining and recreational world, people not only admire you and what you are doing, they also want to be a part of your life. You will be surprised at the number of people (both male and females) you automatically attract in your life just because of this. So go out and get busy improving your life, having fun by learning to play some sport or games, helping other people by volunteering, educating yourself, becoming active in a club/group/church. A very good example of how you can simply attract other people by improving your self is Toula in the movie the Fat Greek Wedding. When she was stuck in her father’s restaurant, nothing happened for her. But after going to college and working in a travel agency, her esteem and confidence soared and she was interestingly spotted by the very guy who ignored her totally before.
3. 3. Attractive personality. Believe me, if you have a wonderful personality, regardless of your size, colour or creed people will be drawn to you. People will also speak about how nice you are and even without you knowing it they will tell to other people about how nice you are. This type of niceness includes being kind, loving, helpful, caring, concern and understanding of other people. It is not something that you can fake. You must be genuinely interested and be willing to help other people.

No amount of physical beauty can rival having an attractive life and personality, in magnetizing or making other gravitate towards you. Men will want to be with and around you. You will have more request for dates and even marriage than you can handle. You will have a very different problem: instead of not finding men you will have too many choices.

Although men don’t mind making sexual conquest of multiple women, his still would like his wife, girlfriend to have high moral integrity. In fact I argue that this is something that men are strongly attracted to.

Listen to this podcast, where I discus this sensitive topic and include your comments below.

Well today I want to share 15 things that attractive and romantic-magnets have in common. If you observe them carefully you will find most if not all of these qualities. In future post I will actually go into each of these in details.

16 THINGS THAT ATTRACT PEOPLE’S ROMANTIC ATTENTION AND INTEREST TO YOU.

1. Self confidence/assurance
2. Composure, the way you carry yourself and your body
3. Intelligence and wisdom
4. Friendliness
5. Femininity/masculinity
6. Being at ease with your body
7. Cleanliness/neatness/being well groomed
8. Independence
9. Having a full and active life
10. Healthy appearance
11. Being real — not phony, fake, haughty or puffed up
12. Contentment
13. Being physically fit
14. A pleasant voice and tone
15. Happiness
16. Assertiveness. Being able to tactfully assert and express your feelings, opinion and needs despite what others think or say.

Ooops I forgot one important one:

- Having clear principles, boundaries and borders

I think that should be 17 (I am human – smile).

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