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How to tell if you are marrying the right person

Hilton — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 21:25:02 +0000

25 ways to tell if your are getting in a relationship with (or marrying) the right person.

What are the things you should be looking for in a divine soul mate?

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I have often said that love is a double edged sword: it can lift to giddy heights of joy and satisfaction or it can plunge you to the depth of depression, despondency and despair. Getting the right person in your life can do the world of good for your spiritual growth and productivity in life. Getting the wrong person can cause your life to be a living hell.

Here are some questions you can use to make the right choice in a prospective soul mate or spouse.

Will this relationship help my spiritual life or would it interfere with it?
Will this relationship help me to be a better and more productive person in life or will it distract or stagnate me?
Do you think that the person has ulterior motive (sex, money, immigration stay etc) or are they genuinely interested in you as a human being?
Will he/she bring happiness to you and your home?
Does s/he have qualities that will make you happy?
Can you find joy and peace in the love and affection of this person?
Would you like this person to be the parent of your children?
Would you like to become like this person?
What is the past record (success and failures) of this person’s life?
Does he/she know how to manage money or a budget or will they squander hard earned money on clothes, beauty, drink, gambling, drugs etc?
How is the person spending habit?
Would you be allowed to still retain your individuality and personality or would you have to surrender to the will and whims of him or her?
How does this person treat other people?
Is this person a safe person to be with?
What are people saying about him/her?
How does this person treat his/her parents?
Is he/she available (emotionally and in reality – are they married or have someone else in the wings)?
Is he or she trustworthy?
Do they have relationship skills – can they actually fulfil your love and emotional needs? If not are they willing to learn?
How do they feel about your religion and spirituality?
Can they person provide for you or take care of a home?
What kind of values does this person have?
What are the person’s spiritual, financial and family life goals?
What is the Spirit telling you?
What is your gut feelings (intuition) telling you?

“It is from the marriage hour that many men and women date their success or failure in this life, and their hopes of the future life.” Ellen White

Should you have sex on the first date?

Hilton — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 18:28:42 +0000

Some women ask me if is OK to have first-date-sex with a man they really have the hots for?
Well it depends on your motive. If you are into one-night-stand thing I guess it would be OK. But I strongly do not recommend it. You should never become physically involved with a man unless you are in a secure relationship with him – yes preferably marriage. In fact you should not do any more that a handshake or peck on cheek on first date. You definitely interfere with the relationship bonding and building process, by having sex too soon. You will be lucky if you get a second date. If you do you will fast just become his sex partner and nothing else. Here is a movie clip that cements the point:

Why You Should Never Have Sex on the First Date! on Howcast

3 ways to avoid making the same romantic mistakes

Hilton — Sun, 31 May 2009 16:19:53 +0000

Do you find yourself attracting the same type of losers into your life? Do you dread the thought that you will always be getting jerks, jokers and losers as boyfriends? Are you petrified of loving someone for fear that they will break you heart again?

Well I want to tell you that you are not doomed to repeat your romantic failures. In fact those failures can very well be the stepping stones for a fantastic relationship that you can have now or in the future. Your romantic past do not have to condition your future. Listen to this short clip where I reveal the secret on how to learn from and move on from your terrible past romantic history

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Should we love someone because of their physical beauty?

Hilton — Sun, 10 May 2009 12:11:49 +0000

Recentlly I had a heated discussion with female friend of mine who contented that men who love women for their body and beautiful face are shallow. She feels that we should look pass what someone look like and see the inner beauty.

I told her while that is the ideal, men are hard wired to look at beauty too. We just can’t help ourselves, thats just the way God created us. Women do like good looking men too. Many women told me that they don’t want men who are shorter than them.

Why does beauty factor so much in our relationship making decisions? Listen to this clip and add your comments below

16 ways to become a romantic magnet

Hilton — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 10:33:58 +0000

Have you every wondered what are the magic ingredients of being irresistible? Why do some people attract all the attention and others languish in the romantic shade?

Well today I want to share 15 things that attractive and romantic-magnets have in common. If you observe them carefully you will find most if not all of these qualities. In future post I will actually go into each of these in details.

16 THINGS THAT ATTRACT PEOPLE’S ROMANTIC ATTENTION AND INTEREST TO YOU.

Self confidence/assurance
Composure, the way you carry yourself and your body
Intelligence and wisdom
Friendliness
Femininity/masculinity
Being at ease with your body
Cleanliness/neatness/being well groomed
Independence
Having a full and active life
Healthy appearance
Being real — not phony, fake, haughty or puffed up
Contentment
Being physically fit
A pleasant voice and tone
Happiness
Assertiveness. Being able to tactfully assert and express your feelings, opinion and needs despite what others think or say.

Ooops I forgot one important one:

- Having clear principles, boundaries and borders

I think that should be 17 (I am human – smile).

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How to get to know a person more easily than dating

Hilton — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 12:14:58 +0000

Dating can be expensive and nerve racking. However there is an altenative to dating that is not only less expensive but more fun and give you the opportunity of finding out a lot more about someone quicker.

In the following clip I share with you

a brief history of dating,
why traditional dating is time consuming and
why it doesn’t really work and
a powerful alternative to dating

how-to-date

How to tell someone you fancy that you love them

Hilton — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 11:24:56 +0000

Coming clean and telling someone that you love or fancy them could be a very daunting task. Your pride, ego, masculinity or femininity are all on the line. It’s like walking a romantic plank. You never know if you will drown or be thrown the romantic “life line”.

There are many ways you can do this without having your self-esteem dragged in the dust. Here is a simple technique I shared on a radio talk show in christmas.