I have been thinking about Susan Boyle again. By now you may have watched the YouTube video of frumpy looking plain Jane (Susan Boyle) who shocked the world with the charm and beauty of her voice. If you haven’t then take a look at this. I think we can learn how to find the gem of a man we are looking for by learning from this wonderful story.

Why was she such a shock – and hit sensation?

Well we all – myself including – didn’t expect such quality from such a person; a person of that age; a person of that type of looks.

There is a saying that we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. But we do, don’t we? Advertisers know this and they spend thousands – if not millions – on producing things that are shiny and glossy for us to buy. The fashion and beauty industry is a billion dollar/pound industry. It is based purely on making us look a certain way so we can appeal to the opposite sex. So we are indeed conditioned to make certain initially judgement by what we see. Susan Bolye, by her looks didn’t fit the bill of a singing sensation.

I am beginning to realise that many people have held themselves in the prison of singlehood because they want a certain type of looks or presentation from their prospective suitor. Anyone who does not fit the bill is immediately rejected and not given a second chance.

Like Boyle how many hidden gems may have been overlooked, pass by, ignored or even cast off because we reacted by what we initially saw.

I am not saying you should abandon your initial reaction to people. That will be almost impossible, because that is how we are designed. However I think we should force ourselves to look beyond the initial reactions and give everyone a chance to prove themselves – you never know when you will unearth a diamond in the rough.

So think about all the prospective suitors who have approached you, engage them in some sort of interaction and genuinely get to know them as human beings.

A teacher friend of mine once told me she rejected a guy because at the time he was a builder and the letter he wrote to her had spelling errors. However years later when she turned 45 and was still single she realized how shallow that decision was. His literacy skills could be improved and his trade is one that will always be in demand. He is now married with a great family? She judged the book by its cover and lost. Are you missing great opportunities because you are judging the book by the cover?

Susan Boyle said it best at the end of one interview. When asked what she thought about people who wrote her off because of how she looked, she said they are now nice to her. Don’t wait until the world discovers the gem in a possible suitor, investigate it now and perhaps be the one to win the hidden gem.

If you want to reach 47 site cialis years and not have a boyfriend or never get a kiss you need to learn from Susan Boyle. She has charmed the heart of the world with her voice but have successfully managed not to attract a man. Her only companion is her cat Pebbles.

In this radio interview I discuss how she successly managed not to get a boyfriend or a kiss in nearly 50 years of life and the things you should avoid if you don’t want to end up like her.

Romantic lessons from the life of Susan Boyle. Listen now

Susan Boyle's unkept hair is one of her many romantic mistakes

Susan Boyle has won the hearts of millions around the world. Her youtube video has been watched over 25 million times and counting. Yet in spite of all this Susan has never won the heart of a man in all her 47 years.

Susan Boyle claims she has never been kissed or ever had a boyfriend. Actually the Daily Mirror reported that her neighbour has kissed her but it only seems to be a “peck” in times of sorrow.

Mr Smith, 51, who has known her for 30 years said:

“She comes to me when she needs help or a shoulder to cry on. I’ve given her many a peck on the cheek to say ‘Don’t worry, everything’s going to be all right’.”

I don’t think that counts, do you?

Amazingly the guy goes on to say:

“She’s a lovely lady, really kind and generous. She would make a great catch for any man.”

She has a voice that will melt the heart of any man, she is confident and sassy yet she has not been able to attract any man, not even the one who has been able secure a couple “pecks.”

Dispite all what Susan Boyle has going for her I think she has made some fundamental mistakes.

1. Susan Boyle got locked away in a very small world. Very few people knew that she existed. According to an article in the Telegraph she spent years caring for her mother. The neighbour said he never knew her to have a birthday party. After the death of her mother she would even spend days locked up in her house.

The lesson here is that you need to expose your self to people. Go out mingle, visit different places, attend events. Look at what has happened to Susan Boyle now that she has decided to face the world and say “here I am with what I’ve got.” We all love her in spite of her looks, but I think she got the message — check her improved image in the interview below

2. Talking about looks. Looks do matter. People do judge you by your appearance. So do make an effort to look presentable and nice when you go out. Susan Boyle nearly got written off because of her looks. The thing that saved her was her confidence and total belief in her abilities and finally her gift. To be well presented don’t necessarily mean expensive clothes and boob job. Just clean, well groomed and well presented.

3. Work on your gifts and talents and show case them to the world where ever and when ever you get an opportunity. Never give up. It took Susan Boyle 47 years to tumble on to the world stage even though I think she thought she would never ever make it. Keep the dream of a great relationship alive.

Listen to on of her interviews

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Would Susan Boyle win a beauty contest? Maybe not. But Susan Boyle has charmed and won the hearts of even the most cynical of people — Simon Cowel of the X-factor. In fact the entire country loves Susan Boyle even though the audience of Britain Got Talent initially seems to have some sort of disdain for her.

What does Susan Boyle have that we can all learn from?

Apart from her singing talent Susan Boyle has, yes you guessed it, confidence. She not only believes in herself, she believes in her ability to do what she wants to do. She was not phased with people’s initial negative reaction to her. She went ahead and did she came to do “make that audience rock!”.

Secondly she has humour. She doesn’t take herself too seriously and cialis ordering she can laugh at the things life throws her way i.e her single status.

Look at how seemingly unattractive woman Susan Boyle wins the heart of even people who dismisses her at first. You can too if you cultivate confidence and humour; plus belief in yourself.

You can also view it at youtube on this link