Should you tell a guy your true feelings for him? Well, this can be dangerous if there is no established rapport between you; even then it may not work in your best interest. Here are some risk free ways to indicate your interest in someone without dragging your integrity in the dust.
1. Smile at him often
2. Compliment him about the way he looks, dresses, work etc.
3. Play fight with him e.g. Jokingly punch or play a boxing match
4. Help him with some work, project or event he is planning.
5. Listen to him.
6. Challenge him to become a better person.
7. Do not take crap from him. Confront him if he embarrass, belittles or hurt you or other people. He will admire you for standing up to him.
9. Beleive in him even when he doubts himself.
10. Be there for him if he is going through a bad batch or rough times.
11. Give him space, dont crowd him too much.
12. Dont overwhelm him. Give him a chance to miss you.
13. Make it OK for him to leave if he wants to.
14. If he wants you to, go with him to places like football or fishing.
15. Talk favourably about him to others especially his friends.
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i really like this guy but i dnt know how to tell him i like him coz i dont know if he likes me. we always walk past each other in school and smile a each other but i dont know if hes doing it just a friendly smile i carnt really talk to him that much at schoo coz the fact is this lass really dosent get on with me but shes always with him and am i quite shy girl some one give me addvise
Just go up to him tell him that nomatter what you say you wanna stay friends and then ask him out or tell him you like him the worst thing he could do is say no or i dont like you in that way. But if you write a note then he could show all his friends wnd youd be the subject of entertainment for the day. Trust me i know from experience always tell the guy in person that way he doesnt have proof to all his friends. Even if he is a shy guy he most likely will tell his friends. Face-to-face is scary and nerve wracking but it is better. Make sure he doesnt have a girlfriend or he may end up hating you for “tormenting” his girlfriend or he might leave his girlfriend for you and in the long runhe could dump you for another girl. Good Luck!!!
so i like this guy he gives all these signs he likes me & ppl think the same thing …that he does like me but idk sumtymz hes hot then cold with me so idnt rlly know if hes that in to me. he calls me baby we mostly txt everyday & one day we chilled we was ite bc he looked rlly shy! && i tryd so be myself & stay calm cuz i was…lol but he wa shy and quiet…advice pls!!!
hi. i like this guy; hes a best mate of my family friend; he used to/might still like me, my family friends girlfriend has told me he is shy to talk about his feelings for girls; we’re always texting and we have been on a few double dates with my family friend and his girlfriend; i dont know how to tell if he still likes me or how to tell him how i feel without scaring him off and losing our friendship; im not sure how it would work out cause he is always working, working, working; he drives; my family love him; hes already basically part of the family; HELPP!
I am already going out with this guy , but he always tells me really sweet stuff but i dont know any really good stuff to say back ? Any suggestions?
how do u ask a boy out if you r only 10.
I don’t recommend one-on-one dating for 10 year olds. However an easy way to do associate with people you like is simply to invite them to fun events you are having with your friends e.g. party, themeparks, sporting events etc.
I would think that if you are going out with him there must be something about him or his company that you enjoy. What about him or his actions make you feel cool, happy, excited or great. Tell him something like “What I like about you is…” or “I notice that when we are together it makes me feel….”
Well Jess,
A good place to start is to identify how he makes you feel. The without expecting too much simple tell him that you notice that when he is around you feel really happy.
Saying that is revealing the effect he has on you but not asking him to commit to anything, just stating what you feel. It can be challenging to talk about your feeling but it can be a good way to start being honest to yourself and others
Hope that helps
AM HAVING A PROBLEM, I MET THIS GUY FOR 5 YEARS, it was love FOR FIRST TIME, I REALLY LOVED HIS SO SO MUCH. NOW I MADE A MISTAKE by ENGAGING this guy, he convinced me to marry him, and i fell for it. now i regret it so much. WHAT DO I DO NOW. I LOVE THE 1 THAT I MET 5 YEARS AGO MORE THAN THIS ONE AM ENGAGED TO, AM CONFUSED.
Hello confused,
My quick suggestion is to take some time out. Get a sheet of paper and make 3 columns. At the top of the first column write
Qualities I want in a husband
. At the top of the second and third columns write the names of the two guys.
In the first column write a list of all the things you are looking for in a man/husband/life time partner. Make the list as long as possible. The make a tick against each quality under the names if the guys has the quality. You should then tally the total and see who has the most of the qualities you are looking for.
Speak to someone you trust about this – preferable a mature/wise person. Listen to your heart. Look into the future and try to see how your family will be like 5-10 years with each person. Then make a decision based on what you know is best for you in the future.
If you decide to give up the present relationship, it is easier to end an engagement than a marriage.
Good luck and do let me know how it worked out!
I like this guy and were like best friends we like laugh and smile alot together but I don’t know if he likes me or what all I know is that I love him with all my heart what should I do???
Im dating a boy. But, he lives far away from me and i only see him in the summer time and i can only text him. How do i know hes not dating anyone else? I love him soooo much and i want to tust him. What should i do?
I have this guy, who I always say I dont like but I always dream about him and I always think about him. Everybody says were perfect but hes all like shu up like he likes me but Im really confused. How do I say I like him without scareing him?
I have this guy who ive liked but I lie and say I dont like him, but how do I ASK HIM OUT?
i like this guy iv liked him 8 years i know a long time but 8 years ago we were 4 but i liked him then and i still do now he is in my class i was chuffed when the teacher said sit beside him and for that whole day we were talkin and talkin and talkin my friend even got jelous cos i was talkin 2 him more and we continued 2 talk day after day and we live really close our roads face each other kinda and we both get the bus sometimes i see him sometimes i dont and well 2day on the bus wewere talkin and we were talkin about people liken people and he said i dont like any1 in this school and i said me 2 exept for 1 and he asked me who and i said im not telling u so we continued talkin and as it came to the bus stop he said that a girl used to like him this girl used to be my old bff and i smiled and said yeah i know and i said did u ever like her and he said never thaught about it but on teh bus before he said that i was gonna say i like him but i chicken out and idk how 2 tell him plus im afraid we will feel awkward in school and i realllly like him and hwe always messes and jokes with me and hes soo funny and i even go red when i talk to him and we have told each other things that only few people know . but if i was 2 tell him im afraid he would tell his friends and life would be soooooooooo sad in school any advice ??
Here is my situation I really like this guy and I don’t know if I should tell him. Here is the thing we used to work together untile like a month ago and I told my self that is I stopped working there well I was going to tell him that I liked him but it has been really hard to tell him because I don’t know if he likes me to. But lately I been wanting to tell him because he is all I think about. What should I do??
what if he lives far far away from me?
I really like this guy but i dont know if he likes me can you help? I mean we are in all the same classes, we talk all the tine, and share tons of laughs. I really like him but i sent him hits and he’s not getting the message! How do i get his attention?
Ok so i really likes this guy. The other day, me and my friend and him were on fb. He told my friend that he liked her! What do i do?
Hi Hilton,
I enjoyed reading your article and I have a question for you. I know a guys for almost 10 years and as far as I remember he has been interested in me. I did not go out with him because I was in a relationship. Now, I’m not with anyone and I saw him when I was spending my break at TX. He is still interested in me and we had a nice time together. Then, we saw each other again in a work related event and we spent some more time together. At the end of the day, when we were saying goodbye to go to our cities, he came for a kiss. I didn’t see that coming. I thought it was a hug and I hugged him. I know he thinks I turned him down, but it wasn’t my intention. He hesitates to call me since then and I don’t know how to tell him I like him too. Is it too late? I appreciate any help.
I really lile this guy since i was little but whem i was little i just liked him now i realized that i loved him its to late coz now he has a girlfriend and i want to tell him but dont scare him off .
I really like his company i am 12 and he is 12 too. Ibe known him sinve i was a babu literaly and how i said i want to tell him without losing his friendship or scaring him off
Thks <3
Hmmm 12 years!!!!
You do seem to have a deep and long interest in this person, at this age it will be good to still maitain a platonic relationship with him until you are much older. Trust me its really difficult to have a mature romantic relationship this early.
Hilton
Ps If you still feel this way contact me in 4 years time
Hi Sadiegirl,
This guy has been turn down by you for so long that any indication of rejection will crush him. The onus is now on you to show him that its safe. To do this you must initiate the calls and contact, give him compliments and congratulate him for anything he has accomplished. Tell him it was really resfreshing meeting up with him indicate it might be a nice thing to meet up again sometime.
Since he has natural interest in you, I don’t hink it would be hard.
Do let me know how it goes!
Go and get would you want my dear before someone else lays a claim to it
Hilton
Hi Laney,
One way of asking someone out without scaring them off is simply to invite them to a group outing or a function that you will be attending even if he isn’t there. e.g. you might want to mention that some friends of yours are going ice-skating and suggest it would be fun. Tell him he could come along if he wants to – that takes the pressure off both of you to have to respond to one-on-one dating
Hi Charlie,
One of better ways of getting to know someone and testing the waters is to ask them to help you with some sort of project or activity. While doing things together you will have lots of opportunity to talk about all sort of things including matters of the heart.
Hilton
WOW those tips were really helpful i just hope when i try this it would ACUTULLY work and help me….
well wish me luck you guys out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Gabby,
Distance relationship is always challenging. I am not sure why you can only text him and not telephone, or skype. The mere fact that you are asking the question suggests that you have some doubts? Sometiimes it maybe be worth it to let him know that you really love him and want to trust him fully, but there are some niggly doubts in your mind. Be sure to let hime know that you are not accusing him of anything but cheating in a deal breaker for you.
Hope that helps
Hilton
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well , i wont say my name or my age but i’ll describe my problem. i’ve been dating this AMAZING guy for 2 months and he cheats on me , what do i do?
I like this guy but I don’t know how to talk to him cause like he’s popular and I’m not but we text sometimes and even though I’m a girl he likes to play football with me but I can’t tell if he likes me or not or if it’s just him being nice
my boyfriend his having hard times, one of his family members past away. i want for him to know that im there for him but i try to but its seem like his not taking it. also he got mad at me cuz i was stupid, but i try to apologise to him but he said it was ok, but i know its not ok i want him to feel like his everything to me cuz he is. also i haven’t or we haven’t said i love you to each other and i want to tell him but in a especial way… any ideas?
I really like this guy in my class and i think i am falling in love with him but im not entirely sure how i should tell him. I hav already writen a song about him so i cant sing it other wise he’ll know. SO (getting to the point) i neeed to tell him… but how?
Hi Katie,
If you like someone its very difficult not to show it. People tend to pick up that you like them just as much that you can tell if someone like you. You may want to wait a while and gauge his reponse to you before telling him
Hilton
You need to be clear if this is something that you can live with or if it is a deal breaker. You need to let him know that this something you you will not tolerate in a relationship.
Hi Maria,
Youf friend is going through some emotionally trying times right now so it may not be a good time to be pushing the relationship. I suggest you just be available for him if you wants to talk, a hug or even a cry.
Hilton
I am in love with a guy who doesn’t even know about that . We know each other for almost 10 years and always used to be in touch . finally I will meet him tomorrow and He is 13 years older than me but I love him so much . I dont know how to say him ….but I cannot handle it anymore . I should let him know that HOW MUCH I LOVE him …….any help ?
hi hilton , I love this guy so much I see him often because he is our neibor , he is also studing in my school and he was going to the same bus as i did . he smile at me often. I speak with him a little. the problem that the other class are thinking that i love another guy . i want to tell him that i love but i am too shy and i am afraid that the boys well disturb him and make silly faces infront him . i really love him a lot but how can i know?????
Hi
When you are really in love with someone, its very difficult not to show it. Somehow they can usually pick up that you have some liking for them.
Hilton
Hi Eva,
Do you think this guy likes you? If he does there is no harm in telling him that you will like to share your life with someone as wonderul as him.
hilton
hi!!!!
I really like this guy at my local church, he doesn’t come to my school and we dont talk to each other, except he knows my dad. Sometimes I notice him looking at me so when i look back, he turns his head around. I mean Ive liked other guys before but this time I really REALLY like this guy. I’ve been liking him since 2 years and now my feelings for him has become into a fully grown love. I also have him on facebook, but im too much of a coward to tell him my feelings online. Plus, he’s pretty popular. PLEEASE HELP!!!
I was with this lad for over a year and then i dumped him in an awful way. i have tried to move on but i just can’t seem to get over him. I’m scared he hates me and will never talk to me again. How do i tell him i still love him? Please help xxxxx
The best way to approach this is to start talking to him casually again. See if he responds to ordinary conversation and then you can take it from there.
Hilton
Hi,
As simple as this sounds, all you need to do is to start a conversation – any ordinary conversation – with him. Once you both get talking as friends then you can decide what to do. But nothing happens until you start to talk.
Hilton
Instead of doing all that just say you love him.If he really does love you, he won’t run off.by the way, I’m 15.
Basically, I really like this guy at my school but he’s in the year below and so we don’t really no that much about eachother, and we don’t talk face-to-face unless I call him over but we talk on facebook almost every other night for ages. All my friends think he likes me and one of them asked him what he would say if I asked him out and he said ” I dn probully no but only coz I don’t know much about her” but we both went to a party and we hugged and he was dancing near us all night and my ftiends think he wanted to dance with me :L!!!! Basically I really want to tell him how I feel but I don’t no how to say it without seeming silly.
Hi hilton , i’m 15 years old and , So I just came across your site and seems like youu can really give great advice. So here’s my problem.. So me & this guy started dating & so he said we should take a break to get to know eachother a little better , but he doesn’t talk to me anymore , and well I really miss him.. What can or should I do ??
Hi Sam,
Before you start telling him how you feel you may want to simply start to talk to him and become a casual friend first. After getting to know him and giving him an opportunity to get to know you personally – off line – you can then decide to let him know how you feel.
H
i love an guy, he is friend of my broher in law,i was first who sent text message, everytime i starded to send message as friendly we are speaking different language, i am from french and i don t speak well english and him bt him speak good english
so the problem is how i can tell him i love u
I met this guy 3 months ago and I believe I am in love. He is like no man I have ever dealt with. He is just amazing to me. When I’m around him, I feel as though I’m on another planet, in another world. He makes my heart smile. I know that he really likes me as well, but he suffers with trust issues from past relationships. He says he trust me and that he knows I wouldn’t hurt him, but he the thought still lingers that it cold happen because of his past. HELP!!!!!
Hi Fafi,
Love knows no language. Your interaction with him will show him that you care. Continue to speak to him and give him compliments and great feedback.
Hilton
Hi First Love,
Trust is something that is built over time. There is no short cut. Avoid trying to convince him that you are trust worthy instead act in trust worthy ways.
Hilton
To hilton
I love this boy, i meeet him about a year ago and i thought he was like every other boy i had met, but it appears not. He is nice and kind to me and always is there for me when i need him. All my friends think we are made for eachother, but i dont no if he likes me. I want to tell him but i dont no wht to say, HELP ME!!!!!!!
Hi Samantha,
Usually when we really like someone they can sense that you like them by your body language and how you act with them. For now its ok just to give him compliments and tell how happy he makes you feel.
Coming out and telling him directly may spoil the suspense for him. Believe me men do need the suspense.
H
Im 15 and I have known this guy for about a year and I want to tell him I like him. The only problem is that he doesn’t know me very well and we don’t hang out much. Also, I’m a more anti-social person so I don’t do things with large groups. I want to ask this guy out but I have no idea how without sounding creepy doing it. Also, he’s in 6 of my 8 classes at school so he’s driving me nuts because I suck at talking to people… HELP!
My crush and I became friend since last month.We are very a close friend and my friends said he never close to a girl since elementary school and right now we’re middle school students.But one day,he tease me that I like him but I deny it because I afraid that he would hate me.Then he’s attitude toward me changes and he was ignoring me.Even I said sorry to him,he just ask me about homework and that shows he still a different person from last time.Last week,I had a fight with him and his friend because his friend called me ‘elephant’ and my crush was laughing so hard.Actually I don’t really care about that but that time I was in bad mood.Right now,our teacher change our seats to infront row and usually I saw he looked at me and immediately turn his head to the other side when I caught him looked at me.Sometimes if I joke and play with his friend,he would stare at us with an angry look and even my friend said he glared at me and his friend when I talked happily to him.I want to say sorry again to him and tell him that I like him.But does he likes me?My friends said maybe he likes me too because he shows the signs but I afraid that I’m the only one who thought he likes me..
(Someone please help me and sorry for bad grammar.)
Hi Complicated,
The best way to take this forward is to try and engage through some of the work and projects you do through your classes. Talk to him and find out which classes he really good at and ask for his help. If you are better at some subjects then you can offer some help.
This will help you to relate to and with him while taking the pressure off having to ask him out. It will also set the stage for you to get to know each other better.
Hilton
Hi Irma,
All is not loss. You might be getting too hang up on one single event. If I were you I would simply forget the incident, ignore his attitude and begin to laugh and talk to him like you use to.
Based on what you have said he seems to be looking for a way to get back in with you even if he is pretending that he is not. This migh be hard for a teenager like you but its also part of becoming a mature person.
Hilton
There’s this guy on my bus that I like. I fell for him the moment I saw him. He went out went my friend for 3 or 4 days so he wouldn’t hurt her feelings. I’m wanting and I’m ready to tell him but I’m scared out of my wits. Someone also put a love note in my locker but I have no clue who it was and I don’t know how to find out. Please help me!!!!
Hi Hilton,
First off, I want to say great advice! But, I have a question. I have a friend and I am so in love with him. He is the first guy I’d fallen for since my tragic first love. We have known each other for about three years and hang out all the time. We have gone on trips together and weekend get aways and all! Yes, we have been intimate more than a few times but I stopped because I couldn’t take not being with him. He works full time (his job has him travel everywhere), and he goes to school full time. That was the reason he said he did not want to get in a relationship, which I can understand. But, now he is about to graduate and I want to just express everything to him!!! Would this be the right time to tell him how I feel or is it a lost cause? I really feel he is the one!
Hi Mayh.
It might be a great time to revisit the possibility of a relationship, However you need to find out where he is at as he may or may not be at the same level of emotional attachment to you.
There is a danger of coming on too strong if you suddenly dump your intense feelings of love on him
Start slow and build up from there. Remember he still has to work to get you, don’t hand everything over to him on a silver plate. That is one of the greatest mistakes modern women make
H
Hi. I really love my best guy friend, and he calls me “baby”, “beautiful”, “sexy”, and his girlfriend. And he says he loves me. Please tell me what this means, I really love him and I wanna know of he actually feels the same way
i really really like this guy but im 70% sure that he does not like me. but i really want to tell him before he leaves becaue he is leaving my school next year.
HELP i like this guy his name is Diego but well i dont think he likes me because he talks and hangs out with all the g8rls exept for me and im really bummed out.And this other guy Josh but hes realy cute i think i might have a chance its about 50/50 i have to wear a dress to school for promotion so im hoping they both notice me
i meant girls not g8rls
so i have had a crush on this guy since 5th grade (we’re both in 7th now) and just this year i started to think about love. i love him. He’s extrrmely nice and caring, but here’s the catch. ive known him for a while and he’s been my best friend since we met, but we’re not dating. he knows i used to like him, but i didnt tell him that i still do. i want to tell him face to face, because its really special and rare that someone would do that and im just that rare kindof girl
. He doesnt email much or text, and i really miss him. I miss him so much, that i just want him to come pver to my house and give me a big hug. its over the sunmer, so i dont get to see him that much. i might see him once. can you help give me advice on how to tell him i love him without scareing him? much appriciated. 
Okay, so I met this guy when we we’re both 10 years old. I’ve always like him. But from 10-15 (years old) we we’re both hard and mean on each other. From 16-18 (years old) we started to keep everything on ”safe-mode”. From 19-21 (years old) we started to become more friendly.
From 21 to 23 (years old-today) I started to have strong feelings for him. People around us, noticed something special going on. Even if there wasn’t anything at all. I invited him to my friend’s wedding, I told him that either ”yes” or ”no” I would not mind at all. Here’s the day, that I’m still waiting for an answer. He told me that he needed to practice more his english. I passed him DVD’s (learn)so he could start with something, even offered him to help him with what I could. And yet nothing.
When we bump into each other, he’s very friendly and says hi but doesn’t make an effort for a conversation like before. When I’ve been at his place, he’s totally another person. Sweet, caring, and talks even more than I do, even calls me by my nickname instead of saying my full name like he tends to do in public.
Seriously, I have tried to win more of his friendship, but yet to see how he acts, it makes me want to move on. But yet, I wonder, should I tell him how I feel?
We’ve started by being mean, then argue, then going with the flow, friendly, flirting(touching), and now almost nothing. I really don’t know what to think about him. I really really like him, but I don’t wan’t to appear dumb.
Please, could you give me some advice? Or even share with me your point of view?
Thanks in advance.
Hi Betsy,
Seems as if you are both being cagey with each other. Could be that he is a bit unsure about how you feel about him too. While it would be good to have his friendship I think you should also have your options open. Feel free to explore other possibilities too.
You are slowly becoming too hooked on him alone – that is a very vulnerable place to be
H
I really like this guy and i’ve know him for 3 years, Hes cute funny and popular and im not popular. Im not sure if he likes me because some times I catch him starting at me then when I look he smiles then don’t stop looking for a couple more seconds then sometimes when I try talk to him he just ignors me and just says Go away, then sometime we end up talking about the guy im acctually going out with that I want to dump for this guy Then he comes close up to me and ends up where I am and always redoes him hair when I walk in the room. I message him on our school messageing site saying I like him, I can’t ask him out because his ex is my enimie and she hates me , I hate her and she will get all her friends to gang up on me. What do I do?
Also hes always asking about me and this other guy.
Hi. After a long period of getting over a relationship, I met someone and became involved for the past two weeks. The only thing is he is leaving to do a monthlong program in costs rica and then seek employment teaching english there.
Ive fallen for him hard. I can see love in his eyes and how he acts, but my friends that have known him for many years say they have never seen him in a relationship. They say they have never seen the sweet side that has come out around me.
I really don’t want a long distance relationship, but I don’t want him to go and not know how I feel. Were very sweet to each other, and I feel like we could really have something beautiful but neither of us communicates how we feel at all.
Keeping all the love i feel inside is causing me inner turmoil and pain. I started smoking again! Not sure what to do. Please offer your opinion?
Btw I’m 27 and he’s 28. We’ve been spending time together/staying with each other when we are able to. I don’t think I’ve ever felt closer with a guy in all ways except this communicating about us/future block.
Hi katelyn,
I am happy that you have found the beginnings of love. I think it is very important that he verbalises his intention. This is crucial in the development of a healthy relationship. You both are responding to each other and acting as if you are in a love without consciously dealing with it. This is dangerous as you may have something in your mind that is completely different to what he has in his head. Untill you both have a conversation about it you can never be sure.
H
He also doesnt text back for hours. I take this as we’re on different pages in how we approach relationships. Not good for my mental/emotional health.
I’m 12 and there is this boy I like who’s 13 but we live quite fat apart so I can only see him every summer?? We aren’t together and we neva hav been but our families are close friends and I don’t want it to brake our friendship… What do I do??!
Hi Paige,
I understand that you may have strong emotional feeling but Wait until you are an adult. Things will love far different then. Example you may want to drive however the law sees that it is best to make people wait until they are at least 16/17 years old. There is a strong reason for that.
H
im gay and i how do i think this will work
ive liked this guy for years now. i see him every day, hes on my school bus (im 15 by the way), he lives in my village, and im going to france and the usa on the same trips as him, and im worried im gonna mess up :/ when i look at him he holds my eyes for longer than he does other people and ive been told thats a start. what do i do?? i want to know for sure that he feels the same about me, but asking him face-to-face is not an option. we’re good friends and all, but i dont want to ruin what we have already xx
Hi Shygirl
I understand the need to be certain of what he feels about you. however he will let you know when he is ready in some way or the other, no need to force the issue.
All you need to do is to relax. Sometimes you may want to make yourself a bit scarce and unavailable to see how he responds.
H
Hi David,
Just to say i am not an expert in gay relationships, the stuf I write is geared towards people who are in heteroseexual relationships.
H
hi dear hilton sir.
fristly sorry to say for my poor english.
i am a guy 24 years old . i think i am so diffarents person in the world.
why iam get afrid / shy to tell any gril ( my hard deply talk) like i love you.
i last two exprience 2002 to until 2006 i every time think some one .finnaly we has lot of chance to mett but why i can’t expline somthing.at last we have lost.. also same thing 2010 – 2012 . but i really miss my flash back. so i see my futer is dark.. any sujetion for me plz.
you are forgetting number eight. but other than that. this is really good information to use.
I like a guy in my class. Usually we have a small convo, then go the same way together. But last thurs, i saw him go to another way and waiting for someone, at that time, im not sure. Then this friday, i finally found out that hes waiting for a Girl.
( i was walking behind them, and my tears suddenly comes down. I think like there is no more hope for me.!
What should i do? Should i tell him how i feel? But how?
Hi Emily
It may be difficult because of your strong feelings, there is nothing stopping you from being friends with him for starters
Hilton
Ok, so I am really in a tough spot. I really like this guy, I think I might even love him… But the problem is that I think one of my friends likes him too. I really don’t know if she is being serious or not, because all of my friends always joke around with her, cause she always hangs out with him, that she likes him and stuff. But she hasn’t denied it so im kind of worried. I’m scared to ask my friend if she likes him, and I really don’t know what to do. I’m not entirely sure if he likes me, but he is really nice and polite and funny. And I’m too shy to talk so him, so I’m scared if I tell him how I feel I will hurt my friends feelings, and then what if he doesn’t feel the same about me?
I really enjoyed reading your arrival. Granted I’m a bit older than most of your readers. I am an adult with a child and one marriage that ended sourly. I just got the final hope to try again after nearly four years. The problem, he is a co-worker. We don’t directly work together but that’s how we met
It started out as a Fwb type of thing no dating period were his words and now a month later its if we date… My mind is torn due to the hot and cold signals. I fell for him hard and now I’m not sure how exactly to tell him because I’m not pushing the relationship thing on him. He and I act like a couple even his mom doesn’t know why we don’t just date. I’m very laid back and give him space let him have Guy time ect. I know he has feelings for me but how can I get him to open up just enough to show him that my love For him is real and I’m never going to hurt him intentionally?
Hi I am 11 and I just fell in love with a boy in my sister class and he is in the same grade as me and my friends have been telling me we would make a perfect couple but I don’t know how to ask him out or even tell him I love him.
WHAT DO I DO?
Hi Hannah
At age 11 you should just become your his friend. Friendship is a good base for developing relationship later in life. although you may not realize this your age is not good to start a romantic relationship. It is almost like getting a drivers licence, you need to be a certain age to start to drive. Similarly you do not have the maturity to deal with all the things that come with a relationship
Hilton
I fancy this boy at school he is such a cutie his name is Taylor Stone
but he totally forgets I’m there but I have just copied down your 15 ways
to get to tell a boy you like him hopefully they will work on me and him
Ok. So iv been seeing my ex neighbor for about 6 months now and we catch up a lot. We drink wine on the beach and hold hands watching movies we have a great time when we are together. The problem is he’s 20 years older than me im 22 he’s 42, we have never had sex but he only wants me to perform oral sex on him, he says I’m unhealthy and unfit and when I said “I don’t think I’m fat” he said “well good for you”.. ( I’m not fat at all) he will not perform oral sex on me he says “not yet” I feel like he is using me but I asked him and he said ” do u really think I’m that shallow” which to me he still didn’t answer the question. He says he likes me a lot but wants to keep it casual, which is fine but why won’t he be intimate with me the way I want too instead of the way he wants to? I’m a big girl I can handle the truth all my friends have said leave him but what can I say I’m hooked on him. I need desperate helpful advise please help..
Hi,
I like this guy and he told me who he likes, which is the person who i completely hate, he is funny and kind and he just wishes that he could be dead because nothing awesome is happening in his life. I tried your 15 ways and they don’t work!!! Please Help Me!
Katie
PS: we are both 11 years old!
Hi Hilton,
I told my male friend that I love him. We have spent a lot of time together especially on weekends. This is so out of character for me because men I have been with in a relationship tell me they love me first. Yes I am older 43, I did not want to wait to tell him I love him, life is too short. What is your take?
Hi XMLA,
Based on what you have shared it seems as if you want to be more intimate and emotional with this person who only wants you to give him physical release through oral sex. Your contact with him is causing you to bond however he is not bonding at the same rate.
You need to decide if you can live with this kind of relationship? Maybe you need to pull back and make it clear that you are happy to fulfill his needs but you have needs that must be fulfilled too. If not walk even that you feel strongly for him
H
Hi Katie
The person you are talking about seem to need some professional help, if you have done you best do let an adult with experience help him
H
Hi Tracy,
Power to you. If you are comfortable with this then it is great that you can be open and honest with your feelings.
Just be open and not be too dependent on the outcome. Make it OK for him to respond in what ever way he wants, however let him know that will not influence your admiration/love for him.
Hilton
Hey, well theres this guy i like. and were both in this program for criminal justice, to become in the unit when were older. and i dont really know him that well. we will just smile at each other from time to time, but i dont know if it is a friendly smile. the program we are in there is no dating permitted. unless its outside the program. and i dont know him outside it. he is a higher rank then i am and he can tell me what to do weather or not i like it.but the only time i talk to him is when i text him and tell him that im going to show up at the next meet. and i wanna talk to him other then the program, but i am soo shy and cant take getting shot down if i do talk to him. because if it dont work out im stuck in the program for a longg time. please help me. i am freaking out, and my friends cant help. thankyou p.s im 15 & he’s 16.
Ashley,
Based on the program you are in it is a great risk to try to initiate anything romantic. I think it is best to get through the program and then try and make external connection with this person.
H
Hi !
I really need help there’s a boy in my class he is cute but he’s quite popular and class clown he always sit next to me and hugs me every time he sees me,makes me laugh picks up things I drop but he never says who. He loves but he always go red when my friends say do you love me ( which is me) I need help I’m scared to ask him out he talks to me a lot and does fake boxing matches so theres some connection, thanks!
Alannah,
All the signs so that he seems to like you. I will simply continue to be his friend without pushing it. The point is to make it safe and encouraging for him to open up to you.
If he does not make a move in 4-6 weeks then you need to explore other options
Hilton
i like this guy named Zion but dont know how to get him to like me
i like this guy named Zion Zawko and don’t know how to get him to like me
Hi Jaylo
UNfortunately I have to inform you that you can’t really make someone like you. You can be nice to him, you can also set up situations that can activate a man’s interest however sometimes you just may not be the type he is interested in.
H
Hi Jaylo
UNfortunately I have to inform you that you can’t really make someone like you. You can be nice to him, you can also set up situations that can activate a man’s interest however sometimes you just may not be the type he is interested in.
Hilton
There is this one guy I like who goes to my church he has been there for about two and a half months but I really like him but whenever I talk to him it gets really warm in th area and he always looks like he wants to say something to me but he acts shy. I am a very shy person and I have Experience in Telling a guy but when ever I told them they would laugh at me and one time he told the Whole class I liked him! What I’m trying to say is that I’m afraid of scarring him away like the other two guys did .how can I tell him I like him? Help me Please!?
Hi Maddison
Your feelings can confuse you. He probably already know that you like him as people can pick up signs. I would just pray about it for now, talk to him as a friend, invite to group events and be generally nice to him. When he is comfortable enough it will happen
H
I like this guy, but there is no way i can tell him i love him because he doesn’t live near me, and I don’t know how to contact him. I’m worried that if I did contact him, he wouldn’t like me. I’m very worried about, and I need some help.
Onnolee,
You need to assess your own self worth and what you can bring to a relationship. If you are more confident about yourself people will be more accepting of you
H
Okay so its been hard because i cant get this kid out of my mind. My best friend likes or use to like him and hes coming to me to help him get her away. So now i have a huge crush on him. How do i tell him but not give it all away? I want a chance with him but we are best friends and i don’t want to scare him away or brake are friend ship What do I do please help me?
Brittany,
So you have a crush on a kid? In that case you need to be very careful and not get carried away. Do what you know to be the right and moral thing to do as feelings (crushes and infatuation) tend to get people in deep trouble
Hilton
i need help!!!!!! i like this boy and everyone says we r prefect for each other.mme aand him sit together everyday on the bus and one time he came to my house. i want to put a note in his locker but we have to many classes together so i will be innbarist and so i cant tell him face to face or i will faint, HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hilton,
I don’t usually do this but I really needed an outside perspective. I met this guy at work 2 years ago and he was completely crazy about me, I could tell. I was extremely attracted to him too, but I like to play hard to get and he had a girlfriend. Also, I liked someone at the time so I wasn’t really in to him. He broke up with his gf of two years and started to be around me all the time. It was crazy, we’d smile all the time around each other, everyone around us knew something was up. But again, when he tried to get to know me, and if I date, I was like I don’t date and don’t do the boyfriend thing. But it got really serious. So I realized I fell for him, hard. His gf(that he brought back) would piss me off and I’d take it out on him. I’ve never been the jealous type but she really gets to me. But, after a long, emotional, and crazy intense 2 years I ended up telling him I like him. I walked out too fast and never looked back. He didn’t say ANYTHING after that. We worked together for a while but never did he approach me. We both quit and left on the same day. Now, I don’t have fb, but he does so I know what’s up with him. But the thing is, its been 5 months since I left my job and honestly there hasn’t been one day where I haven’t thought of him. I feel like I should contact him and ask him if he feels anything at all, bc I need to know to move on. This really sucks. And he never contacts me, I know he has my number. Oh, he was my manager but we were the same age. We’re both 20 btw. I wanna contact him but I already approached him once and my self-respect is getting injured. But I also know life is too short for me to wait around for his stupid self to say anything. He’s not a shy dude, but he is with me. Ugh that’s all I got, do you think I should contact him? Clearly this is getting to me, I used to be such a crazy person, and a huge flirt. But I’m like a huge 360 now. I hate his guts for doing this to me.
The sad part is, I don’t hate him at all :/
Hi Diana,
It seems as if you are infatuated with this guy. To get a better perspective ask yourself a couple of questions
Is he husband material? Do you see a long term future with him? or is this just a fleeting attraction?
Would he make a good father for your children
Is he capable to making making you happy? Does he have relationship skills?
Would he be able to help you become a better person?
Can you contribute to his development?
If you can honestly answer yes to these questions I don’t see a problem in contacting him in a casual way just as a friend. See how he responds to that then take it from there. If you are not positive about the answers then maybe you should let it go!
H
Emma,
I take it that you are friends with each other since you share many classes and bus travel together. If you are not friends it will be good to development a good friendship with him first before trying to publicly break the news that you like him. Good friendship is an important element of a good relationship
H
Theres this guy i really really like but he is really shy and so am i. So niether of is will speak up and i get to spend no time with him anyway. I dont no what to do because hes everything i like and i wont him to like me too. What do i do?
Hi Kathie,
There lots of things you can do: Firstly rather than trying to win him directly engaging in fun activities and interesting conversation. If you like tennis invite him along, if he doesn’t play then offer to teach him. Similarly find out what he is good at and ask him to teach or help you in that area.
If you are serious about getting him as the love of you life contact me directly and lets get going
H
Hi ok so let me apologize in advance for the lengthy question *clears throat* lets begin. Ok I’m 20 and I never had a boyfriend, it never bothered me before, i often think that its because guys deserve better than me since I’m not very experienced. but recently I’ve been thinking about this guy a lot but the problem is, every time i like someone the end up liking my friends or going for my relatives and it sucks , anyhoo the guy i like , i knew him from school but we didnt talk much until we started university and now we chat almost everyday of fb if that counts for anything lol and he’s really nice omg and his abs like wow hehe the problem is, i dont know how to flirt and i think he likes my friend but my friend isnt interested in him sigh i’m not sure if to risk telling him how i feel or just leave everything how it is cause he was really shy but he’s finally starting to open up to me . I’m not a shy person, I’m very outspoken, but when it comes to the opposite i’m like a fish out of water, i avoid eye contact at all times and get all confused and wobbly lol i’m not that bad looking, but getting a guy to notice me seems to be the hardest thing ever. HELP!!! should i tell him or not? and if yes what do i say ? i’ve had a lot of daddy issues and trust issues so liking a guy and telling him would be a really big deal for me because of fear of rejection, my heart my collapse literally with all the disappointments in my life . sigh i’m a mess. this is the first time i’m opening up about feelings, i need some advice but cant tell my friends or family cause they’ll think its soooo weird that i’m liking a guy lol so please help this extremely emotionally unstable girl . any advice? please?
I have this guy whom we met in one of the social network, we never met before in person, i think i am real into him cozy i never stop stalking his profile but the problem is i don’t know if likes me too, cozy he rarely comes online and he has very short answers, i don’t know wat to do anymore
Hi Rhona,
Must say that you seem may to be in love with a profile – which may be not the real person. Short answers may indicate that he is not ready to open himself up totally so I would be very carefull about getting carried away with just the profile.
Continue speaking to him when you can and try to ask open ended questions that can lead to a discussion.
Feel free to email me help@hiltonsamuel.com if you want more specific help with this
Hilton
Hi S.G,
I completely understand how you feel. I will try to keep this short as I am busy right now.
If you like him the way you explained chances are he already knows or have picked this up through your attitude and non-verbal actions. If he is opening up to you he trusts you and that is a very good sign. If you have a good rapport with him you may want to start by giving him general and specific compliments and showing appreciation for anything he does for you. Also ask him to help you in getting things done. These will start a process of helping him to see that you admire him.
Hope that helps. For specific and detailed help contact me on help{at}hiltonsamuel.com – remember to replace {at} with @
Talk soon
Hilton
Dear Hilton,
Ok so theres this guy i really like and he stares at me all the time. And so i wrote him a note saying i really liked him and all. But my friend gave him the note and she said he looked really scared. But ever since i wrote him the note he has been really clingy. He’s always by my side in the hall but he won’t talk to me. Where both really shy and i don’t want to scare him off. What do i do?
Hi Kathy,
Unfortunately it seems as though this guy doesn’t fully understand how to relate to women, which means you will have to train or gently teach him. This can be off-putting to women. The first thing to do is to start treating him like a good friend and mark out clear schedules when you related to him. Maybe every other day at first but it will help you get some space and give him some borders. Then find some activity that you can both do together. The activity will help him to open up without feeling shy or vulnerable.
Hope that helps
Dear Hilton,
just very breefly, in a few sentences.
I’m 20, he’s 34. I’ve been in love with him for 5 years now. He’s my best friend’s (28) brother-in-law and has never had a gf (as we know).
We meet 1-3 times a year at common family feasts but last year we were in the mountains for a week (his brother, his wife (my BF), their baby, he and me). Everything worked. I prepared his coffee, he held the door when I came in. I took care of the baby for a few ours, he helpd me to dress him. We functioned as 2 couples.
This summer we are going into the mountains again. And he is coming, too. The thing is, I think the only thing that stands between us is my weight and my low self-esteem. And the risk of feeling embarassing even infront of my BF if I tell this guy I love him. Actually, that’s the question: should I? Or should I wait for him to act? Will he ever if he is that shy?
Thank you for your answer
I am 15 (nearly 16) & theres this guy who I couldnt live without. A mutual friend told me months ago that this guy likes me, but now apparantly he doesnt like me as much. He flirts with me, but is also a bit shy. I want to ask him out but I am worried the fact that I am fat (12 st 9lb) will put him off. Should I ask him out?
Hi Melissa,
While your weight might be an issue to you maybe he doesn’t mind it especially if he is flirting with you.
Your weight will become a stumbling block if you are uncomfortable with it. Other people will sense this and react accordingly.
I suggest that you accept your body and do the best to be fit. Men like women of all shapes and sizes.
If I were you I will not ask him out on a one-to-one date. I will ask him to help with different things and shower lots of thanks and appreciation whenever he does. Evnetually he will realize that you like his company.
Hilton
HI Mel,
I am not sure I understand. Are you saying that you have a boyfriend but love another guy who is 34 and comes on mountain trips with friends and family?
H
Dear Hilton,
First, i would like to appreciate the way you give advise to those who ask for your help.
I am 25 years old now. I’m working in the office. Since High school i love only 1 man.,.but it’s hard for me to tell him because before i am a working student of his parents. I am bound of what shall be the reaction of the people around me if ever they will know this. I am not sure also if this is love or it is already my habit to love this person that i cannot see anyone other than him.
Actually, i texted him everything that i feel for him but he told me that i don’t know how to answer because i don’t know you. But i am afraid of his reaction if ever he will know my name. I spent almost 12 years in dreaming of him, i wanna be out of this. Please help me. I don’t know on what to do.
Hi Anonymous,
You don’t know how to directly reveal your love to someone you love because you are afraid he may reject you and that the people around him may not approve of you.
Well you have started by arousing his curiosity with the text you sent. He is definitely wondering who this mystery admirer is.
Are you in any type of contact with him? Do you have to interact with him in your job? Or is he someone who is part of the family that you work for but do not interact with?
This information will help in deciding how best to approach the situation.
In the meantime why not look at this presentation on Capture a man’s Heart and Make Him Love You Forever
Dear Hilton,
You are right of what i felt, about the people around me and his reaction. Last week, i tried to text him again but he is not having response maybe because he told me before that he is not fund of replying for those persons that he didn’t know. I face my fear and i texted him that i want to tell him my name. I called him twice but he didn’t answer. I felt having peace of mind that at least I do my best in telling him even he didn’t answer, I decided to forget him but until now I’m still thinking and dreaming of him. I don’t know on how to move on with this. We meet each at least 3 days every year, once he went home during Christmas vacation. I plan to change my routine during christmas break, I want to go in other places so I will not see him anymore. Is this the rightest thing to do? How could I know if this is right?
Hey..I’m a 14-15 yr old and I am in love….do u think my age is good for all this I mean not sex or anything but only having an affair…BTW I’m a girl…
I knew this guy for a while nd i want to ask him out but I dont think he feels the same way. He doesn’t know a lot about me but I know a lot about him. And we are really close friends and I don’t wanna ruin that anyway.. he seams like he likes me sometime. Other time I’m just invisible.. I dont know what I should don..
Hi Mehak
I realize that many young people are forming realationship younger and younger, however intensed romamtic relationship can be very distracting and hurtful when they go wrong. There is nothing wrong in having great male friends however I would recommend that you wait until later to form more intimate relationships.
H
Hi Anna,
If you are looking to capture this guys heart then you definitlely need this program “How to capture a man’s heart in 3 easy steps”
Be sure to get it http://www.hiltonsamuel.com/go/capturehim.php
Hilton
Hi,
I have been dating this person for four months we first stated off by emailing each other and then he asked If i was ready to talk on the phone with him. We both felt like we known each other for years and we felt like everything was so right, we thought about each other at the same time. When we finally met in person it was amazing and felt so perfect and we were comfortable with each other and the second date he asked me to be his lady so we’ve been dating for four month’s. He travels a lot for his job and i understand. But now he just found out that his job will be relocating him to another state and this may take place in a year if not sooner…I have fallen in love with him but I have not told him. He is someone I want to share my life with and always be there for him. What do I do and how can I tell him. We are both 50 and we both were looking for a serious relationship when we meet. Help me!!!!
Hy. I met dis guy nd he told me he love, nd I love him too bt I hvnt tell him yet coz I dnt knw wht to say I dnt wnt to say I love u too I wnt to say it romantically or using some nice words please help
Hi me,
Unfortunately sometimes when we so caught in making the right impression it can go all wrong. I would recommend that you check out this very helpful program that will show you how to capture his heart
Talk soon
H
Hi Cyn,
There are 2 ways I can give you some quick help, first is through my coaching program (if you would like this email me – help[at]hiltonsamuel.com – remmember to replace the square brackets with @) and/or you can check out this fantastic program that teaches how to capture a mans heart
Hilton
hi, i really like this boy, im in yr7 & he’s in yr8, and ive told him i like him and we talk every once in a while, but i want to get closer to him! any suggestions to what i shud do? plz x
Hi Hilton,
I’m 14 years old and I’m very shy and in love with my crush I just recently found out that I was his first kiss when we were 5 and he never forgot about it. I keep getting mixed up about him especially since me and him are both so shy. What should I do to tell him my feelings even when we hardly talk
When i lived in australia for 8 month i had this friend. I could talk woth him about everything. And then i had a boyfriend. After we broke up i flew back to germany and while i was on the plane he told me that he loves me. I didn’t know if i felt the same or if it just felt good to have someone who cares about me. And i didn’t wanted to use him to get over my ex. Then we talked everyday and everynight. Just those senseless conversations that no one other then us could understand. And with the time he was the only one i could think about. Now he is about to move on. And i love him. I have no idea how to tell him. And even if i would tell him there are 16.000km distance between us and the next time i see him could be in 2 years. I just don’t know if i should tell him or not.
ok hi i like this boy and he’s in my ged class and we meet like once a week .i mean i didnt think that i would like him it just happened he’s. so cute and all well after a few months i finally told him by writing a letter to him and now he knows how i feel but i mean he didnt say anything he looks at me but is not showing any signs that he knows i told him because i tought that he felt the same way cause he looks at when he thinks i dont look now am confused as to what to do cause he’s. sending me some mixed messages like he smiles and looks and try to get my attention cause am ignoring him but now its killing me please help do i ask him how he feels or just let it go cause i really like him ?
Okay, so I like this guy…I see him at school…in the morning, in lunch, and I also have a class with him… I really like this guy…but I don’t know if he likes me back. I was planning on telling him through facebook…
I need help…
p.s,
He has a twin…
Hi Hannah,
One of the best ways to show interest in someone is to find things about them you can praise and compliment them about. Try to find things you admire and tell him what you appreciate about him. Eventually you will not even have to tell him you love him directly he will become attached to your admiration and appreciation.
Hilton
HI Gina,
What do you mean “move on?” Is he starting to see someone else? If so you need to act quickly and let him know that you “although you have not said it you use to fancy him.” If he asks what about now just say that you din’t think he would be interested especially you are so far away.
Hilton
Hi Nelly,
Facebook is not the best medium to do such a thing. Secondly be certain you are talking to the right person and not the twin. If you are not sure he has feelings for you its it best to develop a good friendship with him before you break the news.
Hilton
Hi hilton
Im 16 and i have known this boy for 3 years, and hes told me he loves me and he texts me everyday to assure me that i know he loves me,everynight he comes into my head and i think i love him? I just dont know how to go about it and im really confused?, can you help me at all?
Hi Hilton,
Firstly it’s really sweet of you to imbibe some wise thoughts to every one. So,cheerios on that!
Well, I apologize but this would be a li’l long because the situation has two sides to it. The good and the ugly.
I am a college freshmen and I like this guy,with whom I share few common classes. Let’s name him Ryan. We both became good friends from the start of college and few months later I realized that I have started to like him as more than a friend. I could totally tell that he loves spending time with me because he has asked me to accompany him to a concert,went out for dinner a few times and he has taken me for long walks even at absurd timings like 4am while we are working on a homework. We have had really good talks and we have also spent 6-7 hours together twice during a break. He readily agreed to be my date for a ball party on my birthday and he did really sweet romantic things for me on my b’day night. He caught my hand when he realized it was cold and that I was shivering. He was also willing to carry my shoes,without me having to tell him anything, because he knew they were hurting my feet since I ordered a wrong size.
However, he’s a little weird when we’re out of sight though. He’s not so enthusiastic about me when it comes to texting/online chats. He’ll either reply after several hours/day later or not reply at all. Most of the times he’ll call me only when he needs help with some homework but at the same time he’s so different when we meet in person(as I described above).
Now the worse turn to the story. One of my classmates asked me out on a date. I told this to Ryan while we were dining together. He asked me what I would tell him, so I told him,”Well,I think I would tell him the truth. I would tell him that I’m sorry, I don’t like you as more than a friend. I have feelings for someone else.”
Booom!!! That was the biggest,dumbest mistake I ever made. I thought that my reply will get Ryan keen to know who I had feelings for and then I planned to tell him that it was him I was talking about. But,instead, he got all rude and weird to me. He pretended like he’s least bothered to know who I was referring it to and that was the first time when he left me alone in the library at midnight and he left for home. Things “sort” of normalized few days later but it was certainly not like before. My friends have been pushing me hard to tell him that I love him and they feel it’s the only way out. Infact, one of my guy friends even texted him 2 weeks ago saying that he thinks that I like him. He did not respond to that but he was good enough with me on a dorm party held the next day.
Suddenly Ryan distanced himself from everyone for the past 2 weeks. He wouldn’t talk much to anyone and he looked sad. He prefers being alone more. However, I decided that I should tell him that I love him and so I texted him 4 days ago saying that I had to talk to him about something serious and I need to meet him in person. Two days ago, we got to spend some time together after the end of an exam. He asked me several times what was it that I had to tell him but I just kept him hanging on because I wanted to be mysterious. We got dinner together that night and I thought I should tell him how I feel about him. The weird part is, we spent 2 hours together and out of those 2 hours we spent only 1 hour talking. The other 1 hour was an awkward silence and he was busy with his phone and he kept asking me about “the talk” and I kept him hanging. Luckily, I somehow managed to get him open up to me and tell me why he’s being sad and distant. He told me that he was losing 5k$ because of a foolish decision he made. I tried comforting him and he felt okay that night but he went back to being the same the next day. Infact, he ignored me yesterday and I felt hurt. I felt like only I’m the one trying to initiate a talk. I really really like him and I know that probably me confessing my feelings is the only best way out but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea considering his sudden change of behavior. Also, the fact that he’s messed up right now compels me from not telling him. We always bump into each other after exams. That’s actually the only way how we get to spend some private time together. We have an exam this tuesday and I’m planning to tell him but I’m very nervous. Do you have any input on this?
I again apologize for the length but just thought that you should know the details so you could provide some proper input. Thanks!
Hi,
I’m totally head over heals In love with guy but I don’t know if he likes me cause he flirts with other girls when he’s around me and stuff and looks at me but I just don’t no what to do someone help please
HI Steph,
Love can be confusing at your age. In fact it does mess with your mind and head. These feelings of romance, sometimes called infatuation, can also be disorienting.
One of my mantras is to FEEL WITH YOUR HEART BUT ACT WITH YOUR HEAD
Do not let your heart rule your head
Hilton
Hi Gia,
From what you have said I think he already knows that you like him or have some sort of feelings for him, just as you sense he likes you by the amount of time he spends with you and the little things he does. However like you he may be uncertain about verbalizing how he feels.
Maybe he is indeed in a tight spot. At this time he may need your support and encouragement. You may want to let him know how much you believe in him and that you are confident that he will find someway to get through this. Also let him know that you will be there for him, regardless to the outcome of the situation, because he is very important to you. Tell him that you are happy to help in whatever way you can.
This can go a long way in letting him know how strongly you feel about him
Do let us know the outcome of your choice
H
Hi Hilton,
Today me and my friend were taliking to the guy i love and my friend blurted ou that we think he loves me. I think he likes me as a friend kind of but i dont no what to do.
I cant act myself around him none of my friends no do you think i should tell them?
From turtle787
Hi Turtle,
You should only confide in people you can really trust, who will not let your secrets out and will not cause you any embarrassment. They should also be able to support you in times of need.
If your friends have these qualities then I guess you can share your secret with them
Hilton
I’ve been with this guy for nearly 2 months, he has told me he loves me but I never say it back. I feel a bit bad about doing that but I need to know if he is actually means it. We met on line, I fell in love with him from the first moment I saw him! So how can I tell him I love him without sounding stupid?? Help please!! Xxxx
Hi guys,
I sit opposite the guy I love for English reading and he always looks at me and we have a moment where we gaze into each others eyes but the girl he sits next to flirts with him so me and my friend think she loves the guy I love I can’t help feeling jealous the problem is I’m only 10 so I don’t quite know how to ask someone out.
Can someone help please
From turtle787
Hi Megan.
There are many ways to indicate that you love someone other than saying “I love you”
Make a list of the things you admire about him and let him know. Knowing what someone like and admire about you can be more powerful than just hearing the words “I love you”
H
Hi Hilton,
Me and one of my other friends were talking before school this morning and she bought up this conversation about the guy I love and she wants to ask him should I let her?
From turtle
Hi Turtle,
I guess you want some definite proof of his love. This will be seen more in the way he treats and responds to you, however it would do no harm for your friend to sound him out.
H
Thank you so much for your help. x
hi, so I like this guy, he is in my taekwondo class and he is the TA. he is a year older than me and he is graduating in a couple of weeks, we have become friend but not really close ones. I invited him to see a movie with some friends that we have in common and he said yes. I really admire and look up to this guy and I think that is the reason I started liking him. I don’t know if it is even appropriate fro me to like him due to the fact that he is the TA (he just helps during warm up and showing techniques but he does not determine the grade for the class in any manner.) I don’t know if he likes me but I do like him a lot. Should I tell him something? please help
Hi Hilton,
What should I say if I tell my friend I want her to ask him if he loves because sh will be suspicous of me and she might guess.
Help!
Turtle
Hi Martz,
You have done well in inviting him to a group outing. I would continue doing things like this to build a friendship raport with him before you decide to break the news. This way you can become true friend without the pressure and tension of love that can easily make you vulnerable.
Hilton
Hi Turtle,
I thought your friend wanted to do this, anyway one way is to ask your friend to say who she would recommend as a boyfriend for you. If she mentions him then ask her, if she feels he likes you. You can then explore ways to find out together.
Hilton
I like this guy, who happened to be my trainer. i have started liking even though i know he is already dating.i become alil reserve in his presence and very shy too.he treats me alil different that’s probably because i’m much senior compared to other mates.the point is i’m really liking him and for the first time i feel like letting someone know that i like the person.is it right or wrong? i’m expecting any response from him although deep down i wish it work somehow..what am i supposed to do…i hate my self for this!
Hi Mockingbird
No need to hate yourself its natural to get attracted to someone who tick our boxes. My suggestion is to become a good friend with him before exposing your feelings. You can start by telling him that you admire his teaching/training skills and ask his help to do something.
This guy has a lot of ideas on how to secure a man’s heart do check it out for more ideas “Capture his heart”
Hi Mockingbird
No need to hate yourself its natural to get attracted to someone who tick our boxes. My suggestion is to become a good friend with him before exposing your feelings. You can start by telling him that you admire his teaching/training skills and ask his help you to do something.
This guy has a lot of other ideas on how to secure a man’s heart, do check it out for more ideas “Capture his heart”
I like this guy and I want to tell him I like him without him knowing it’s me. How do I do that?
Hi Hilton,
Since I last commented a lot has happened. My friends no about my secret, they have asked the guy I love if he likes me and he smiled, so my friends think he likes me. The guy I liked try to get me together with another guy, in going out with someone else but I’m still head over heels in love with someone else.
I seriously need help!!!
Turtle
Hi Turtle
I suggest you kindly decline the offer to be set up with someone else. At the same time try and build a friendship with the guy you admire by asking him to help you with things or asking his opion about things he is good at. Always express your appreciation for his help
Hilton
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