15 ways to tell a guy you love him without scaring him off

by Hilton on July 24, 2009

Should you tell a guy your true feelings for him? Well, this can be dangerous if there is no established rapport between you; even thenĀ it may not work in your best interest. Here are some risk free ways to indicate your interest in someone without dragging your integrity in the dust.

1. Smile at him often

2. Compliment him about the way he looks, dresses, work etc.

3. Play fight with him e.g. Jokingly punch or play a boxing match

4. Help him with some work, project or event he is planning.

5. Listen to him.

6. Challenge him to become a better person.

7. Do not take crap from him. Confront him if he embarrass, belittles or hurt you or other people. He will admire you for standing up to him.

9. Beleive in him even when he doubts himself.

10. Be there for him if he is going through a bad batch or rough times.

11. Give him space, dont crowd him too much.

12. Dont overwhelm him. Give him a chance to miss you.

13. Make it OK for him to leave if he wants to.

14. If he wants you to, go with him to places like football or fishing.

15. Talk favourably about him to others especially his friends.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

1 emma 02.12.10 at 10:42 am

i really like this guy but i dnt know how to tell him i like him coz i dont know if he likes me. we always walk past each other in school and smile a each other but i dont know if hes doing it just a friendly smile i carnt really talk to him that much at schoo coz the fact is this lass really dosent get on with me but shes always with him and am i quite shy girl some one give me addvise

2 Anymonous 10.26.10 at 3:06 am

Just go up to him tell him that nomatter what you say you wanna stay friends and then ask him out or tell him you like him the worst thing he could do is say no or i dont like you in that way. But if you write a note then he could show all his friends wnd youd be the subject of entertainment for the day. Trust me i know from experience always tell the guy in person that way he doesnt have proof to all his friends. Even if he is a shy guy he most likely will tell his friends. Face-to-face is scary and nerve wracking but it is better. Make sure he doesnt have a girlfriend or he may end up hating you for “tormenting” his girlfriend or he might leave his girlfriend for you and in the long runhe could dump you for another girl. Good Luck!!!

3 Bubblez 11.25.10 at 7:16 pm

so i like this guy he gives all these signs he likes me & ppl think the same thing …that he does like me but idk sumtymz hes hot then cold with me so idnt rlly know if hes that in to me. he calls me baby we mostly txt everyday & one day we chilled we was ite bc he looked rlly shy! && i tryd so be myself & stay calm cuz i was…lol but he wa shy and quiet…advice pls!!!

4 Gloria 12.14.10 at 7:48 pm

hi. i like this guy; hes a best mate of my family friend; he used to/might still like me, my family friends girlfriend has told me he is shy to talk about his feelings for girls; we’re always texting and we have been on a few double dates with my family friend and his girlfriend; i dont know how to tell if he still likes me or how to tell him how i feel without scaring him off and losing our friendship; im not sure how it would work out cause he is always working, working, working; he drives; my family love him; hes already basically part of the family; HELPP!

5 kh 12.19.10 at 10:32 pm

I am already going out with this guy , but he always tells me really sweet stuff but i dont know any really good stuff to say back ? Any suggestions?

6 sawyer 12.20.10 at 4:57 pm

how do u ask a boy out if you r only 10.

7 Hilton 12.21.10 at 1:46 pm

I don’t recommend one-on-one dating for 10 year olds. However an easy way to do associate with people you like is simply to invite them to fun events you are having with your friends e.g. party, themeparks, sporting events etc.

8 Hilton 12.21.10 at 1:49 pm

I would think that if you are going out with him there must be something about him or his company that you enjoy. What about him or his actions make you feel cool, happy, excited or great. Tell him something like “What I like about you is…” or “I notice that when we are together it makes me feel….”

9 Hilton 12.21.10 at 1:54 pm

Well Jess,
A good place to start is to identify how he makes you feel. The without expecting too much simple tell him that you notice that when he is around you feel really happy.
Saying that is revealing the effect he has on you but not asking him to commit to anything, just stating what you feel. It can be challenging to talk about your feeling but it can be a good way to start being honest to yourself and others
Hope that helps

10 PROMISE 01.07.11 at 4:57 am

AM HAVING A PROBLEM, I MET THIS GUY FOR 5 YEARS, it was love FOR FIRST TIME, I REALLY LOVED HIS SO SO MUCH. NOW I MADE A MISTAKE by ENGAGING this guy, he convinced me to marry him, and i fell for it. now i regret it so much. WHAT DO I DO NOW. I LOVE THE 1 THAT I MET 5 YEARS AGO MORE THAN THIS ONE AM ENGAGED TO, AM CONFUSED.

11 Hilton 01.07.11 at 9:30 am

Hello confused,
My quick suggestion is to take some time out. Get a sheet of paper and make 3 columns. At the top of the first column write

Qualities I want in a husband

. At the top of the second and third columns write the names of the two guys.

In the first column write a list of all the things you are looking for in a man/husband/life time partner. Make the list as long as possible. The make a tick against each quality under the names if the guys has the quality. You should then tally the total and see who has the most of the qualities you are looking for.

Speak to someone you trust about this – preferable a mature/wise person. Listen to your heart. Look into the future and try to see how your family will be like 5-10 years with each person. Then make a decision based on what you know is best for you in the future.

If you decide to give up the present relationship, it is easier to end an engagement than a marriage.

Good luck and do let me know how it worked out!

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